A casual community for people with ADHD
Values:
Acceptance, Openness, Understanding, Equality, Reciprocity.
Rules:
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lemmy.world/c/adhd will happily promote other ND communities as long as said communities demonstrate that they share our values.
It's probably never going to be "the right time". Don't keep putting it off.
She doesn't get to tell you how you feel, so if and when she argues with your feelings, do not engage. There is no argument. You don't have to convince her that you deserve to feel that way. Just say how you feel again.
You should try being assertive, you can look it up, but essentially it's a healthier communication style that emphasizes on facts and feeling. For example, you shouldn't say you don't care for me, instead say you cancelling our date made me feel dismissed.
You can look it up online, essentially it's a middle ground between being passive or aggressive.
Keep in mind that every feeling is valid, and trying to pursuade someone otherwise is the art of gaslighting. Emotional manipulation and gaslighting, are common in a Narcissist's playbook, if you feel you emotions are invalidated don't angry, instead leave it's not worth your time.