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What has everyone got for their dad's, who are usually particularly hard to buy for?

Also, to add a caveat, totally fine to have a complicated relationship with your dad. If this is the case, please be kind to yourself and ignore this post!

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[–] TeaHands 16 points 1 year ago (4 children)
[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I'm with you here, I have a very complicated guilt filled relationship with my dad and often this time of year causes issues. I always think it's nice to focus on the positive father figures or even mentors in your life and reach out to show appreciation and know none of this is on you!

[–] TeaHands 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Eh it's been 11 years since he went off the rails so I'm pretty much over it. Sucks around his bday but on weekends like this I'm mostly just happy to not have to spend time and money on an awkward meal out like most people I know. Gonna lounge in pyjamas instead and nobody can even make me feel bad for it lol.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Honestly I admire you so much for this. I am feeling the guilt to go have to spend time with my dad over spending time with my partner (who is an amazing dad). As you say it's always awkward and toxic but still the guilt remains. Great that are prioritising yourself, have a wonderful weekend!

[–] TeaHands 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Well I hope that whatever you do, it's as bearable as possible and you get to come home to your awesome partner asap. I don't know your situation so can't comment any further on that, just remember your feelings in all of this matter too.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

Thank you, yours to. Hope you have a lovely weekend!

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (5 children)

same here, I haven't heard from him in 8 years, not sure if he's still alive

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (2 children)

My dad ran out on us when i was a toddler. So yeah. That's how my father's day is gonna be.

[–] TeaHands 3 points 1 year ago

In the best traditions of British understatement....that's a bit of a bugger :(

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Sorry to hear that, best to treat yourself extra kindly on sunday.

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[–] FlayOtters 9 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Bought a part to fix his car door window mechanism and told him I'll fix it. I don't really know a thing about fixing cars so he'll probably be losing a window.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Hah! I hope not, and wish you luck fixing the door. It's a very thoughtful idea, I think we couild all use a few less chores and jobs to sort out!

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I got him a bag of coffee. Unfortunately I then discovered another bag of coffee I got him for the last occasion that I forgot to give him

So a trip to John Lewis later and he's got a rice cooker. Luckily my sister isn't in the city so as long as I see him I win by default

[–] TeaHands 6 points 1 year ago

It doesn't always have to be a competition you know!

(says the oldest grandchild, whose grandmother has drunkenly confirmed that means she'll always automatically be the favourite 🕶 )

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Hah win by default, well congratulations on thay. Also rice cookers are amazing, we use ours way more than we thought we would.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

My dad died last year so nothing. But… I didn’t ever get him anything. He was of the opinion that he had a birthday and that was enough and that Father’s Day was just an excuse to sell cards.

Personally, I like receiving gifts and my kids are still kids so they get excited by proxy. I like single malt whisky so there’s always that (though obviously their mum has to get involved).

And I like to cook (come and check out https://feddit.uk/c/cooking_with_fire if you’re into barbecue of any sort!) So there’s always some little gadget or ingredient (hot sauce or something). They can get me.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I'm sorry for you loss!

My partner is the same, likes getting things from our kid. It's very cute seeing father's day from their perspective. My partner is very into bbqing (although it always brings on rain) so thanks for your suggestion.

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[–] Skellybones 5 points 1 year ago

You guys got dads? Damn your Lucky

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Socks....but he actually asked

[–] agreyworld 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] sideone 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Socks are awesome and you've got to think he knows what he wants! You can get fancy sock subscriptions now

[–] Chewbecky 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Yep my dad always asks for socks and liquorice allsorts. Every damn year, for birthday too.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

He obviously knows what he wants! You can get sock subscriptions, maybe find one with fancy patterns

[–] wildeaboutoskar 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I usually get a bottle of whatever spirit he's low on. Slightly ironic in that he has almost every spirit but the personal kind.

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

I get my dad every year what he always wanted.

A life without me in it.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

Sorry to hear that, it can be a very complicated time to year. Best to be extra kind to yourself!

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Was chatting to a friend of mine last night who bought his dad a set of canvas prints of family pets over the years which is remarkably thoughtful and made me feel a bit shit about getting mine a moonpig card and a bottle of rum.

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[–] Izzent 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

A nice and comfy ⛵ t-shirt

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)
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[–] EmergingDystopia 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I love your caveat. My relationship with my dad is very complex, and it brings me so much anxiety to go through father's day every year. Same for mother's day, but father's day is upcoming so it's more pressing for me right now.

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[–] Speckle 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Luckily there's a lot of Mandalorian merch out there and my dad is really into that. Pretty easy this year!

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Nothing… he’s getting a card which is all I can afford 🤣

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

I'm with you - card only gang all the way.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

That's more than enough, no one should be stressing themselves financially for father's day!

[–] llIIIlIlIIIIlIIl 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

My other half and kid got me a Father's Day card and gift (whoopee cushion) last week. Their mistake; I expect another this week!

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Hah! I'm sure your kid will love having a second father's day - you might have to re-remind them!

[–] chaosppe 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

A bunch of unique hot sauces. Last time I saw him he seemed to be experimenting and enjoying different ones, assumed I should... spice it up, rather than the usual chocolates.

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Not everywhere in the world.

[–] Cinner 8 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Maybe this isn't the right thing to do considering this is casualuk, but because it's showing at the top of all, and many users are new and don't yet automatically look at the sub name, I want to put a small reminder:

Fathers day is on Sunday the 18th in America. Also the 19th is a federal holiday.

Carry on friends across the pond, just want to prevent fediverse newbies from panicking.

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

Nope, but it is in the UK. Always confusing to see reminders when it's actually for another place!

[–] SugaryBurro 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)
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[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (9 children)

I didn’t get my dad a gift, just popped a card in the post. Now I’m thinking maybe I’m a crap daughter and I’ll ruminate on that for a while.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I'm popping out to get a card this morning, and a stamp, and I'll have to sign it and post it before last post so it stands a chance of getting there only a little late.

Dad knows I am there for him when the shit hits the fan. He's visiting my sister tomorrow.

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I usually get him some nice beer.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Sounds like a great idea! All the dads in my life seem to like IPA at the moment

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

The man loves haggis, so I've managed to find haggis spiced chocolate. Not sure if it's a good idea but should get a laugh

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

That is an amazing idea! Have you tried some already? I can't even imagine what that'll be like

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

A red wine which is hopefully decent. I had to text and ask him though as I never really know what he would want, and I know he doesn't care much about the holiday. I've not been the best in terms of making the effort to see him lately so popping round for a bit of lunch today to drop it off.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

It's difficult to find time in modern life, everything is so busy and rushed. I'm sure he'll love the wine and the visit!

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