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And how have they shown that support to you?

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[–] [email protected] 22 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

My mom and my best friend (cis woman). My mom immediately accepted me and told me when I came out to her that she would love and support me no matter what I'm about to tell her. She accompanied me to every appointment whenever she could so far.

My best friend immediately made me feel like one of the girls and treated me like any other woman. She was the second person I came out to. I can talk to her about anything and she is very empathetic and gives me great support emotionally.

Edit: but I also have to add that I didn't make any negative experiences since my coming out so far.

[–] [email protected] 16 points 6 months ago

My husband, by far. From immediate understanding and acceptance when I came out almost 20 years ago (we weren’t even dating at the time), through taking care of me after top surgery he’s given me basically any and all transition related support I’ve needed. I feel super lucky to have him and legitimately don’t know how anyone without someone so supportive takes care of themselves!

[–] [email protected] 15 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Personally, my biggest support has been my wife who has been with me every step of the way. Even the steps that terrified us both.

But also, I have found my family that I have been searching for my entire life. I found them here and on the blahaj matrix chat rooms.

I hope they all know just how special they are to me. They've given me a space to be myself and I feel like I finally fit in somewhere.

When I say they're my family, I truly honestly mean that.

There is one special person that I've met here that I know for a fact will always be a part of my life. I wouldn't trade them for the world. ❤️

[–] [email protected] 5 points 6 months ago (1 children)

why hello there my super bestest best friend!! 🥰 i too love my family here on lemmy and matrix, and i wouldn't trade this for the world 💕 my parents are supportive and very helpful, but i rely on you and this family for the love and community that i really need ❤️ i love you so very very much 💗

[–] [email protected] 4 points 6 months ago (1 children)

And I love you Emma! I see you realized I was talking about you 😘

Thank you for being such a huge support for me. Even when I struggle so much. You're my absolute best friend and mean the world to me!

We will take on this world together 💕

[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 months ago

I'm so lucky to have you in my life now 🥰

We will take on this world together 💕

and nothing can stop us; the future is what we decide, what we make it to be.

❤️💖💗💖❤️

[–] [email protected] 13 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

A trans communist I've talked to a lot over the internet for ages, she introduced me to her wife and a load of other trans communists from across the world and helped put me in contact with people to get hrt from and helped me pay for it after I got cryptoscammed out of the money I was using to buy it, also given me a lot of advice on self injecting and general good social advice. Also helped me get through a pretty traumatic situation I was going through several months ago that kind of fucked me up mentally.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 6 months ago (2 children)

Weird answer maybe buuut... myself, and my dream families and friends. Sometimes I spend all' my time daydreaming and I often come up with critters who end up close to me, sometimes even very close. Between their love and support and my own disregard or outright disdain for various useless opinions of who I'm supposed to be... I'm getting pretty firmly into the DGAF region of my mindspace: I'll be me on my terms. I'll try to be my best me, the Keris in my dreams, but that's my journey to make.

... I'm kinda busted so it's hard to connect with real people any more :-\ 🤷 Was really shocked when I found out the hard way I'd really bonded with some dream critters. Thought I'd gotten the risks managed but nooooope Misery was building a bigger batch of sad. Anyway, wordsy wordses blar blar blar et ctera 🤷 😴

[–] [email protected] 7 points 6 months ago

you are loved. never forget that Keris ❤️

[–] [email protected] 5 points 6 months ago

Not a weird answer at all! Being your own best support is a dream that most do not end up fulfilling.

Be proud of yourself Keris, you're a lot closer to that dream Keris than you realize ❤️

I see it and I know everyone here and in the chats do as well 😘

[–] [email protected] 10 points 6 months ago

My female friends accepted me as one of them immediately, no questions asked. Nowadays I'd say anything less than that is disrespectful, but back then it meant the world to me.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 6 months ago

I've never thought about it until just now, but... honestly I don't really feel like I've had much support? Mostly just my boyfriend, who holds me when I'm sobbing from dysphoria. That's like super important to me but it's also all he can really do

[–] captainlezbian 8 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

It was my mom. She accepted me immediately and helped however she could. She also fought for me

It helps she was a vocal ally before she knew her daughter was trans

[–] [email protected] 6 points 6 months ago

My siblings have been pretty supportive from day one. I appreciate them. A good friend of mine is a trans man and it's been nice to have someone who understands what I'm going through.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 months ago

This is so heart warming to hear! Thank you for your input, your husband sounds like a keeper for sure! ❤️