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Coworker just went through hell (self.childfree)

submitted 1 year ago by pixel_witch to c/childfree

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My pregnant coworker (whom I don't see very often anyway and was in the process of moving to another city in the next couple months) sort of just disappeared.

Turns out she got a really bad infection and had no amniotic fluid. They ended up having to induce her very early and place the infant in the NICU. She is okay and the baby is okay, but apparently they induced her and then it was too late to get an epidural and she had a retained placenta so they were trying to pull it out. Only after screaming in pain for a bit did they decide to sedate her and address the issue.

I don't know anything about giving birth and even less about dealing with emergency situations, but the whole thing seems off to me. Epidural aside why wait to sedate her if the baby is already been delivered?

My heart goes out to her and her infant but man am I glad to be sterile.

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[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 year ago (2 children)

They waited to sedate her because women's pain and discomfort isn't a priority.

[–] pixel_witch 7 points 1 year ago

The callus disregard towards her suffering is really frightening

[–] Thrillhouse 1 points 1 year ago

And despite the fact that women in general have really high tolerance to pain, we’re never taken seriously.

Pregnancy seems like the most dangerous “normalized” thing you can do as a woman.

[–] BigPapaE 3 points 1 year ago

Sounds terrifying

[–] MutilationWave 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

They'll be paying off that NICU bill until that kid is an adult.

[–] pixel_witch 3 points 1 year ago

That didn't even occur to me. Jesus her suffering will never end.

[–] julieulie 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Is she okay?

[–] pixel_witch 1 points 1 year ago

Yes. Luckily her and the baby are okay. She hasn't opened up to me so I imagine she is feeling a lot of emotions but I can't be sure. Last I heard this week was that they baby had opened her eyes but they seemed a little wonky so they arent sure if she can see well (her eyes werent fully developed when she was born)