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Advice on finding a partner? (lemm.ee)

submitted 7 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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I just got ghosted by the girl I was talking to, I want to find another girl to talk to. This girl and I met at the gym, but I don't want to be the guy that goes to the gym just to meet girls. I mean sure there's the bar and Tinder, but I want a real relationship. I mean, I guess it'll come to me.

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[–] ChexMax 0 points 7 months ago

Yeah, I think sometimes people hear stop looking for a bf/gf and hear stop meeting people. The trick is to focus on bettering yourself and/or being happy outside of a relationship and your natural boost in confidence and value will likely get you out of your relationship slump. If you're actively pursuing friendships with no stakes beyond genuine enjoyment, I think it does up your chances.

Also people hear stop looking for a relationship, and hear stop dating. I think it can mean just stop looking for the one. Stop looking for someone who completes you. Take your foot off the gas, be open to a shorter relationship or fling. You might be surprised what you find in a relationship when there's no pressure for it to work. My sister and I both found our husbands in relationships we thought were definitely going to only be short term.