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In the process of questioning myself, I discovered that it doesn't seem very natural to refer to myself as she/her at first. How did you yourself experiment it? Did it take some time getting used to? Or was it an instant relief?

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[โ€“] [email protected] 18 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Took a couple years for it to become habitual, a few more for it to become truly subconscious. At this point I dont hesitate at all in calling myself a woman, in responding to my name or pronouns, or in associating myself with other women. It takes time, but after a while it becomes a deep part of who you are. It's a very gradual process, and it feels weird when you first start. Saying something and truly believing it with all your heart are 2 different things, and self doubt and uncertainty can lurk around for a while. But thats normal, it's a part of self acceptance that most trans people go through.

[โ€“] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago

Wow thank you for this reply. I find it relatable despite my lack of experience