So I’m real confused at why people hate big polyamorous relationships? Like it confuses me because isn’t the basis of being poly. Loving others and loving multiple people. Giving dedication to multiple people? Which it never specified on what type of group or how big of a group. So where does the hate of big polys come from?
If anyone can explain this please. Since this is not the first time I’ve got hate for my poly. Which actually normally I ether instantly get banned from places for asking questions or I get like 100s of downvotes. Though everyone just keeps their mouths shut and I’ve never really asked before but it just doesn’t make sense. Why is adding people to a poly to protect and love them. To give them the best life possible. With no abuse and no manipulation. To give others the happiness it’s hard for me to feel. A bad thing like why does the size of the poly or how we’re together make any difference. It’s just love isn’t it? Also it’s completely legal? So where is the issue.
Now I’ve heard some people jokingly call it a sex cult but I don’t believe it’d logically be that. Also for me it has nothing to do with the number of people, their sexualities, gender. All that matters to me is their personality and how I can help them grow into who they want to become. Which this probably gonna sound cheesy but it’s like watching a caterpillar transform into a butterfly. The beauty that comes from their happiness when they succeed or become who they want to be is my favourite part. Below is the definition of Polyamory and it never specifies anything about size or how it works unless it’s consensual and morally correct. So if this is a stereotype why don’t we burn that shit and just love!
Which I thought to add people can have different size polys or work differently yk and if you take my approach you’ll know when you get enough people or some can just give infinite love out.
Hey I read your other posts and I agree with the cult thing. I would suggest you try to check for signs. Best of luck and please try stop engaging in sexual relationships with your partners mothers, fathers, siblings and other relatives.
Went through and answered the bullet points.
1: Yeah if anything I’d be considered the leader as I’ve made the big ideas of giving them the best life and helping them grow
2: The love never left or lowered. Personally I stay in high school first love feeling always
3: Does not happen at all we don’t all believe the same and yes some of us have worse views on life but due to trauma though certain things we do agree on
4: So we have no reward exactly the reason I add people is only to protect and care for them. Also my original wife recently said I was waiting for the day we stop adding people and the rest don’t care. Though I said why though people are beautiful.
5: yeah no one has to leave their family or friends. Now I’ll say if family is being extremely toxic and or harming them I will remove them from the persons life. Though only to make sure they’re happy and safe.
6:No isolation, One my wives Mommy basically lives and roams the forests of the world. Then singers and movie stars have their own life mainly. Then everyone else can go wherever they want or do whatever they want as long as they’re safe and happy.
7: I mean all of us hate Trump? Though we don’t all hate the same people or influence ppl to hate others has we all don’t see the same views.
8: Its been three years and no one has left on their own. We kicked two people out for cheating.
9: I used to be untrusting though after the first year maybe year and a half. I started trusting everyone.
10: Yeah we have no worry about others knowing we normally meet everyone’s parents and or friends and almost everyone who knows us knows how it works.
11: Hahahaa I mean I’ve technically tortured my husband but it was something he was ok with but didn’t expect. Though otherwise no.
12: Also there’s been noting planned of that sorts.
Looking through the main view points none actually match. Though I don’t understand the issue with sexual relationships with my partners Mothers, Fathers and siblings? To me I’m just giving them the same love and care as I do anyone else in the poly.