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[–] Drivebyhaiku 2 points 6 months ago

A lot of it is applicable in many different places.

Whenever someone holds something you desperately need out of reach unless you conform to their very specific formula to make that happen you end up with situations where bad system design alters people's behavior to a specific degree. If you fail the test of being the correct sort of risk for the system to call "a success" your story doesn't end or go on hold. If your conditions for living are to live on your terms you either have to find other ways to get around the system or you die. Misery is deadly and a lot of the problem with being trans under extremely stigmatized terms is that life sometimes doesn't become a quest for happiness - it becomes a choice of which type misery is the most compatible.