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Was feeling antsy about my job situation but just heard from my ex colleague about how ex-boss is continuing to be unreasonably snarky and critical to the point that he is pretty much just quiet quitting now despite being one of the most reliable and consistent people in the team. I feel relieved and vindicated in my decision to leave even though I didn't have anything lined up after for a while.
Oh trust me, when someone starts taking digs at you they don't stop. They're often a really unpleasant person to others as well.
You have always seemed to me to be someone with good judgement, even so, it's always good to be vindicated.
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Financial uncertainty can really drive one to second guessing themselves. But I did save up a good cushion precisely so I could have the option I did and not regret it
@just_kitten @Seagoon_ Ugh! That's a massive red flag. You definitely did the right thing getting out of there!
I had a past boss who was constantly taking digs at people behind their backs. Usually past employees.
Somehow, all these ex-employees were grossly incompetent and useless. They stuffed things up.
Never did he acknowledge any blame on his part. Not even, at the very least, for repeatedly hiring the wrong people for the job.
Well.
Sure enough, soon after a major client left. It was largely, ultimately, his fault.
And he refused to take any responsibility, blaming everyone except for himself.
Another time, soon after, he gave one of my colleagues an explicit instruction. She carried it out as he instructed. Then he told her off, claiming that he never said that.
(There were multiple witnesses who heard him say it.)
This became a pattern.
It sounds like your boss might be similar. And you did the right thing by leaving.
@Lats @just_kitten @Seagoon_ For a moment there, I saw the author and thought it was the other John Clarke π
Which would have been utterly amazing!
That said, it still looks like a very insightful read...
I really hold onto hope - for the sake of my former colleagues and the industry - that my ex-boss is just garden variety egotistic (he cannot accept that he's just a bad manager and stress is making him even more narrow minded) He has at least given most ex staff good references and is conscious of not burning too many bridges in the industry. Still, he is being unreasonably rude, sarcastic and unsupportive to existing valuable employees who are already struggling with burnout - is that how you treat good workers who are a real rarity in this field? It would take 5+ years to train up someone as good as the guy I talked to today. Sometimes I wonder if he's trying to tank his own business π
He isn't as bad as your ex boss though, holy hell now he sounds like a legitimate psychopath. Forget red flags that needs an entire firetruck of alarms
@just_kitten it called "fuck you money" for a reason π @Seagoon_
@just_kitten @Seagoon_ Iβve learned to trust my gut in those situations. If the vibes are shit, quit. Itβs always turned out to be the least worst option