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"Men are bad at picking up on women's hints." What are your actual thoughts on this sentiment? (self.casualconversation)

submitted 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) by FatTony to c/casualconversation

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Either through memes or comments I keep seeing this sentiment pop-up from time to time. And I'm wondering what your (yes, you) consensus is on it.

I for one am too pessimistic to do anything with potential hints. Like even if there is a good chance I still just don't want to risk it.

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[–] BambiDiego 7 points 8 months ago

You're spot on, I no longer deal with said "veil of plausible deniability"

This is 100% how I approach all sorts of relationships in my life, not just romantic. That's called direct and open communication.

I will straight up ask (politely) that someone clarify what their explicit stance is, if they refuse or try to play coy about it I simply let them know I don't know where they stand and I don't know what they want.

I've done this with bosses, siblings, my son, and my partner. I have grown to respect people much more because I understand them better and have also cut out some toxicity from my life that I didn't know was eating away at my happiness.