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Yesterday I was at a health evaluation for a driver's license. Everything went well with my physical health, but at questioning, my autism was bought up. I was accused of needing help with learning in primary school (despite of my grades, that were usually B (I know, I'm lazy)) and now I need a psychological evaluation.

When I started high school, most professors infantalized me, but later stopped after I proved myself (ok, some didn't stop, like the slovene teacher and the sport teacher/coach).

When I meet someone new, they always think I am intelectually disabled, before proving otherwise...

Why is this happening?

Edit: It means a lot to talk to people who support me trough this (even if only on the internet). I took a psychological evaluation today. It included an iq test like form (easy, but didn't finish the whole paper), questionairs and some cordination tests (that in my opinion I was bad at). Just waiting to get the results. Hopefully I'll pass, but I can't really do anything if I don't, can just maybe try somewhere else in the EU (i think).

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[–] [email protected] 31 points 8 months ago (2 children)

Maybe you need to work on masking. Pretending to be a "normal" person to fit in is a big pain, and something I personally hate. But if you act "normal" when meeting new people, they will treat you like everyone else. It's tough to act this way but it might help you.

(It also sucks that we can't be accepted the way we are, but that's how the world is. As much as we might want to change the world, we also have to live in it as it is day to day)

[–] [email protected] 16 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Ye, what I usually do it mask until they treat me as an equal, then casually mention my ASD when it is relevant. I think it serves to normalize it without creating preconceptions.

[–] Persen 8 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago)

I mentioned my autism to some of my friends. Some shame me and others are supportive, but nobody actually understands me.

[–] Persen 15 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) (2 children)

Well, I think I am masking (very badly) and it effects my mental health, so I won't try to improve it, but i still agree with you

[–] glimse 11 points 8 months ago (1 children)

I wish people with autism didn't have to mask at all and could just be themselves

[–] Persen 2 points 8 months ago (1 children)

We wouldn't need to if people were fair and at least somewhat educated.

[–] glimse 2 points 8 months ago (1 children)

I agree. That's the part I wish would change

Also, did you downvote your own comment?? You replied 22m ago and are already at 0 (+1 after I upvote)

[–] Persen 3 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) (1 children)

I just removed the default upvote.

[–] glimse 4 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Take it back!!! It misses you

[–] Persen 3 points 8 months ago (1 children)
[–] glimse 4 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Because your words are worth seeing!

I mean that but I'm just playing, do what you want lol

[–] Persen 3 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) (1 children)

Yes, I know it's a joke, but I still won't like my own comments. It's like voting for myself.

[–] glimse 4 points 8 months ago

My interpretation is that upvotes are for comments that add to the discussion and I try to make sure my own fit that description

[–] [email protected] 5 points 8 months ago (1 children)

That's fair. It's a tough one to balance of having good mental health and energy vs being able to exist in the world.

I have found that once I got out of school and college and things that I "have to" do, I've been able to create and find spaces where I'm able to be more authentically myself, which has definitely helped me. Hopefully you'll be able to find more of those spaces in time

[–] Persen 3 points 8 months ago

After starting to attend high school, I learned, that most people aren't even worth communicating with, so I just do whatever I want and not care about everyone hating me or thinking I'm stupid.