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Coming out stories? (lemmy.blahaj.zone)

submitted 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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Hiya ladies,

With my hair growing, nails manicured, and eyebrows shaped, it's going to become harder and harder to boymode inconspicuously around family or friends (only my partner knows). On the other side of that, I'm nowhere near passing or even presenting femme in public, which makes the idea of coming out quite scary as they're seeing masculinity when I'm declaring femininity.

Part of me wants to wait like two years and then one day suddenly appear as my new completely feminine (hopefully beautiful!) self without any warning or advance notice! So people see the best version of myself, rather than seeing the mid-transition mess I am right now (or pre-transition mess I was!). But realistically I know that's not gonna work!

So I'd love to hear some coming out stories and when in your transition you decided it was right for you! And how those you came out to responded, if you're comfortable sharing that!

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[–] [email protected] 9 points 8 months ago

Don't think I could start HRT without at least coming out to a couple more people (not like I literally can't, but I feel it important for me). With my brother, I came out to him basically as soon as I started questioning my gender and updated him whenever I got a chance. My cousin also knows. Brother was helpfully skeptical, but excited. My cousin didn't have much reaction. Mostly just a "Walrus gonna do what Walrus gonna do"

My parents, sister, and friend have seen me dress in varying degrees of gender non-conformity (including my sister seeing me cosplaying as a female character), enough so that two of them have explicitly asked if I'm a woman (which I just said no because I consider myself an enby). Not exactly trying to hide it, but also kinda uncomfortable talking about it.