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Is texting not a conversation, or is it just me? (self.adhd)

submitted 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) by RememberTheApollo_ to c/adhd

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When texting people in general I find it frustrating that people don’t seem to view it as a conversation. If someone texts me and I catch it and text back right away, I get frustrated when people don’t return the favor. They might text back 5, 10, minutes or an hour or more later. Why did you text me if you didn’t want to have a conversation? Why am I the one sitting here waiting for a response?

It’s like someone sitting down across from at a table and asking you “Hey, how ya doin?” You respond “Great! what’s up?” and they just sit there for 10 minutes not saying anything.

Might be the whisper of ASD in my ADHD contributing to not understanding how this social interaction actually works vs how I think it should work.

Anyone else have this grinding their gears?

E: apparently it’s just me!

Thanks for the replies, everyone.

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[–] [email protected] 9 points 8 months ago

The whole benefit of texting instead of calling is that it is an asynchronous form of communication. The conversation can continue while at the same time other things are happening. Since other things are happening, that means replies aren't always prompt, and that the benefit.

If you want immediate replies, use a phone call instead. You know, the form of communication that is directly suited for that.

Not to mention that people don't always have cell service. I take all weekend to reply to a text sometimes if I'm at home, because I don't get service unless I drive to town.