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Did I make a mistake with not inviting people to our wedding? (self.casualconversation)

submitted 9 months ago by Grogon to c/casualconversation

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Hey!

I am marrying my girlfriend in june and I invited a few friends of mine to my wedding.

My partner (female) has about 6 close friends and we wanted to stay around 50 people with family and friends for our wedding.

The problem I have is that I had to cut out a few people that I know but have nothing to do with since a few years. I feel kind of bad, because 2 girls in my friend circle are close with my best friends and I like them as friends to talk to but personally I wouldn't have anything to do with them without my friends.

It's a weird situation, but I didn't invite them because my partner and I wanted to keep it at the limit of 50 people with family and friends.

I feel bad. Today I was at a party and I couldn't talk about the wedding because 7 friends that were invited were there and the other two who werent invited would be left out so I avoided it and was happy nobody talked about the wedding invitations. I think the other two know they aren't invited even though I enjoy talking with them when we go out...

I hate weddings...

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[–] AFKBRBChocolate 23 points 9 months ago

I've been married twice. My first wedding was giant, with hundreds of people. My second wedding (also my wife's second), we decided to keep it to like a dozen immediate family and very close friends. The second was much more enjoyable, but believe it or not we had to draw a line in both weddings, inviting some people and not others. It's your day - you decide how many people you're going to have, and then you make a list that gets you to that number. That's what everyone does. The rest of the people will understand, just tell them you're keeping it small and there were lots of people you would have liked to invite but couldn't.