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Is it just me, or have the comments on Lemmy become extra aggressive over the past 3 months? (self.asklemmy)

submitted 10 months ago by Ghostalmedia to c/[email protected]

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I feel like things on Lemmy were pretty chill several months ago, and that’s started to change.

People used to talk each other like they would talk to a neighbor. Now I get the sense that people have become quick to be negative, attack, and not be constructive.

Am I crazy in feeling like the vibe has changed?

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[–] Sekrayray 37 points 10 months ago (3 children)

The vibe has gotten much more negative, to the point that I don’t really want to post anymore. I came here in early June with the Reddit API stuff, and was shocked at how communal it was. It actually got me to start posting again (I hadn’t posted on Reddit since the early to mid 20-teens because it had gotten so toxic).

My last three posts (nothing inflammatory) have gotten flamed. Someone actually hunted me down based on my post history and I had to take the time deleting most of my old posts.

So from my perspective it’s not just you. I’m back to being a lurker.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (1 children)

Please don't. Join another instance, run your own, whatever. We need more canapés!

[–] Sekrayray 1 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Ha ha I wish—that’s one of the few things I left up that didn’t get completely bombed by a hostile user and their 8 alt accounts. All I said in a comment was that women should be allowed to play video games without the expectation of being hit on my random men, but I guess that’s an unpopular opinion 🤷‍♂️. No more content from me lol.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Couple of things.

There's some quote about evil winning when good peeps do nothing
You need a thicker skin. Aim for a world where you don't, but this one requires it. Besides, it's the internet - fuck em.

[–] Sekrayray 2 points 10 months ago

Appreciate it. I’ve got a thick skin in real life—I just feel like doing anything in the virtual world which requires me to engage my thick skin is sort of a waste of my energy. I zero percent mean that as though I’m trying to start an argument here, but if I’m gonna get cyberstalked for a couple comments here or there it’s just not really worth it to me.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Sorry to hear. If you want a more laid-back community, there is [email protected]

[–] Sekrayray 1 points 10 months ago

Thanks, I’ll give it a try. Just made my first post there

[–] dylanTheDeveloper 2 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

Yeah I stopped posting when most of the smaller communities died out due to the DDoS attacks on Lemmy world. All the larger communities are pretty hostile to new people