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Wasn't prepared for all the dudes telling me to beat my kids (lemmy.ml)

submitted 10 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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It's always in a joking manner... but not really? Just like "yeah you gotta pop em once or twice so they'll know". Idk shits weird

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[–] [email protected] -3 points 10 months ago (1 children)

There's a gulf of difference between "I was spanked as a kid for stealing a candy bar" to "that's child abuse and deserves 10 years in prison". Advocating for subjecting a child to the foster system because a poor, tired, single mother of 3 kids resorted to spankings is ridiculous. People in this sub need to check themselves.

[–] cynar 2 points 10 months ago

You wouldn't get 10 years for a simple spanking. Just like you wouldn't get 10 years for slapping a police officer.

The countries with those laws on the books have them as a deterrent, primarily. They are intended for when kids are left with broken bones, scars and missing teeth from their punishment.

Generally the tool of choice is education. Spanking breaks the trust between the parent and the vulnerable child. That trust is the key to getting positive change. The use of other methods gets better results. This makes life easier for the mother, and happier for everyone involved.

Question for you. If the line shouldn't be drawn at "any physical violence" where should it be drawn? Is caning ok? Extinguishing cigarettes on them? Punching? Hitting with a baseball bat? How would you clarify acceptable Vs unacceptable?