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I don't think it's an unpopular opinion so much as unrealistic one.
Cultivating your body at the gym means you will look attractive at the gym. This is just how the human body is, and the gym is a place for everyone. If you don't like that it's a place for everyone, go outside. There are plenty of things you can do with just your body weight to stay healthy. You can get your own weights, as well. You do not need to destroy your body systematically in order to maximize gains and aesthetic in order to stay healthy. If you decide to do so, you take what comes with it. "It" being gym bros hitting on you during your workout. Simply turn them down and move on.
I agree that it's unrealistic, but for a different reason. So long as the gym is one of comparitively few acceptable public spaces for people to "socialise with intent of romance" people will flock to it for that reason. Any gym that enforced some kind of 'no flirting' rule is incurring a real financial risk.
Hitting on people is equivalent to racial segregation and centuries of hatred...? Besides that whole can of worms, how did your parents meet? My dad hit on my mom at a summer camp. I met my wife by hitting on her at a store. Hitting on people is the most traditional way people hook up. Weird to me that people are trying to demonize public flirting.
People like you want to demonize the desire to be left alone by strangers, and sadly you're in the majority, so stop whining.
Humans are social creatures by nature. Some of us prefer to be left alone, but others welcome the company and advances of strangers. I don't think it makes sense to demonize people for wanting to be left alone, but respect goes both ways. People are going to flirt. People are going to like it, other people aren't. Everyone is valid. Reject and move on. Be rejected and move on.
Clearly just an anti-social person trying to force their narrow views on everybody.
You're one of those super special 'introvert' people, that aren't really introvert, but just anti-social, right? What have the bad, bad extroverts done to you? Did you have to leave your house and go to work? Or did you even have to talk to a cashier yesterday. Poor soul.
And you are one of those "forced social" who accost people with headphones when you're bored or horny, and then call the uninterested women "bitches" and the uninterested men "assholes" when you don't engage directly in fights with them, right?
You're not entitled to people's attention or interest.
You're a dumbass. I never engaged anyone with headphones, because that's a clear sign of not wanting to communicate. Your dumb mug isn't one. Maybe you should stay in your 4 walls or wear a sign with 'I'm an anti-social twat, so don't talk to me.', if you don't want anybody talking to you ever. Smartass.
That may be true (I doubt it, but whatever), but legions of guys don't care about that kind of hint.
Yeah, I see how engaging with you it's certain to be a delightful experience.
I nearly puked myself reading that comparison. You getting hit on in the Gym is nothing like being a black person in the 50s.
I couldn't* care less what it reads like to you, in your world nobody talks to anyone and everything is black and white. I'm good, I won't ever want to live in your world.
Edit: the video
https://youtu.be/om7O0MFkmpw?si=rfND5qx77a3RbK0H&t=49
Fuck
In yours, people is entitled to bother anyone at any time, and I'm pretty sure that nobody takes "no" for an answer, so I'm pretty sure your interlocutor wouldn't want to live there, either. Neither do I.
"Simply turn them down and move on"
Yep, I can see how you'd think someone who says these words would also think that it's ok to harass someone. Your logic is incredible, please continue.
Turning a legion of hopefuls takes time and a mental toll. Not wanting to deal with that effort is perfectly legitimate. I know you don't think so, but it is.
Again, the gym is for everyone. Never said it was wrong to not want to deal with people hitting on you.