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SSRIs were a trend of people in my life for many years. I was lucky enough to not need them, most problems washed over me, but recently the toll of fatherhood has made me reconsider. I lack the patience required to deal with them, and depression is seeping in. Motivation and enjoyment are harder to come by. I hope 2024 I learn to cope better, and begin to enjoy being a dad, it should get better the older they get
Being a dad isn't easy. Most of the techniques we've learned for dealing with people don't work on kids. I find myself understanding my parents much better, and trying to avoid their mistakes.
It does get a lot better though. My kids are old enough that we can talk and joke with each other, which makes things so much better. They're starting to learn responsibility, which makes things easier.
I hope 2024 works out for you. Good luck.
The fact your acknowledging your shortcomings is enough to tell me you will get there.
Kids are tough and there's no magic bullet. All you can do is grow together learning how to be there for them as their personality slowly reveals its self
Kids are hard work, but remember to take care of yourself too. Do you get time for just you and your OH, or time for you to do something on your own?
Time for me more, and that is part of the hardest thing about kids. My time with the wife has been slashed, my weekends aren't mine either. I didn't get any advice about that at postnatal classes!
Do you have family or friends close by that can watch the kids to let you go for dinner or go to a class?
A few times a year. Been calling on babysitters too. It's the day to day that ails more sadly
How long til the wee one is in school?
A good while yet, option to defer too with a late in the year birthday