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[–] krashmo 61 points 11 months ago (5 children)

I find it interesting that you cite the stress of raising them as a factor in your regret. Could you not tell that was going to be an issue around the time number three came around? That's not intended to be accusatory btw. I'm genuinely curious.

[–] JonsJava 98 points 11 months ago (3 children)

You incorrectly assume I'm intelligent.

[–] krashmo 26 points 11 months ago

Haha fair enough

[–] themaninblack 13 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (1 children)

Ok not a Java dev but this would explain the excess children (lol)

[–] mrbaby 3 points 11 months ago

Oh hell yeah I'll never pass up an opportunity to shit on a language i don't use. It's the programmer way!

Signed, a PHP developer. <3

[–] jennwiththesea 16 points 11 months ago

Not OP, but I've found that the older they get, the harder it gets. Schedules are all over the place, and they start advocating for things they want to do that don't fit neatly into the family calendar (vs when you were able to choose everything for them).

Expectations for parents have also skyrocketed. Your "best" now is far different than what the 1990s parents were expected to deliver. And, of course, you love them and want to provide them everything they need, so you bend over backwards to make it happen. That's what society demands, too.

I don't have as many kids as OP, and I can't fucking imagine wrangling five in the current world...😳

[–] ChapulinColorado 16 points 11 months ago (2 children)

Maybe they meant it like “there is now stress for helping pay for college at a higher cost than when they were born.” Or being stressed knowing if the family lives in a HCOL area (typically where those salaries are offered), they might not be able to live there as well with the current trends in housing costs.

TLDR: things have changed for the worst for newer generations, parents can see it.

[–] JonsJava 29 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (2 children)

God, I wish I was smart enough to lie this well. No. I like sex, and hate condoms. I'm the dum.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 11 months ago

I do too, which is why I was on the table getting a vasectomy before the vernix was dry on our one and only kid lol

[–] [email protected] 2 points 11 months ago

Kids are inherently stressful. They're like little abusive people who you can't legally defend yourself against.

[–] RedditWanderer 7 points 11 months ago (1 children)
[–] calcopiritus 7 points 11 months ago

Made a ChildFactory, may as well use it.