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Thanks for sharing your experience, and yeah I would be interested in a group. I am worried it would fall apart without some kind of penalty for not showing up. Over and over I've had the experience:
At least part (but not most) of it is I can tell other people "I'm going to get penalized if I don't go" and then that person is okay with me not doing their event/request.
The bad advice problem is why I feel like, yes, a small group would be helpful, the advice would come from other people with ADHD not the coach. However, in my experience, a group of 5 people with ADHD takes about 45sec before the conversation goes off on a random tangent with the original topic never to be seen again. The coach would just be the conductor of the conversation. E.g. "hey joe, last week you said X, how is that going", making sure someone doesnt dominate the conversation, having a checklist, etc. That's why I feel like both combined would work well.
In terms of improvement, I'd like be able to get feedback on small things, like an email I'm hung up on that I need to respond to. Stuff that isn't really worth posting about, and may have personal details.
But also, I myself have gathered a lot of strategies, tools, and advice over the decades and I'd like to be able to share those with people. Posts are good, but with a low attention span it's best to give advice directly when it's needed instead of just "maybe you can use this 3 months from now"
I would suggest: