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Noticing a pattern. (self.autism)
submitted 1 year ago by AkaBobHoward to c/autism
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First, I am a late diagnosis, so if some of my terminology is offensive please tell me, assimilation is hard.

On the the point, I have been noticing a pattern, I am in a number of allistic or mixed groups, online or in meetup type spaces. I am trying to expand my social circle, and I have nearly always been alone.

Is it typical amongst nurotypical people to respond to a question with need for information questions and then, when they realize that (and I don't know which) they're not interested or they can't help they just move on, not explain that they can't help or aren't interested?

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[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Yes. One reason is it’s simply less effort. Another is it can be socially awkward to deny someone, or to admit ignorance.

[–] AkaBobHoward 3 points 1 year ago

This feels like a likely theory. Something like:

I thought I could help (knew something, whatever) but turns out I don't. Now I am embarrassed, and don't want to admit my mistake.

That is valid. I could give some grace to that situation, this really did help. I was ready to be angry about it, but this is much better.