I prefer the terms hetero and cishets
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My trick is I don't let what people call me bother me. I was raised with the old saying "Sticks and stones may break my bones, but names will never hurt me".
Or you realise that the people insulting you are brain dead and not worth the energy is takes to process their sound waves.
When ive seen what makes them cheer, why would their opinion have any effect on me?
This. Exactly what I am getting at. It's not worth your energy to get upset over people who trying to bring YOU as an individual down by simply calling you names.
I didn't say words. I said names. This person was called gay... as an insult. For whatever reason by some people. He shouldn't let it bother him because those people aren't worth the time of day to have such a narrow point of view that identifies a person as who they are by a single aspect of who they are rather than seeing the entirety of who they are.
Sociopaths have feelings, the idea that they don't is a false stereotype. Actually, the word "sociopath" itself is inaccurate and often considered a slur.
That's where I believe you are wrong. Sure, things hurt my feelings. I grew up being picked on. But eventually, you realize it's the other people's problem and not yours. They think X... so what? That's what they believe. Unless they intentionally damage your life by influencing coworkers, friends, and family, simple "name calling" is useless words that only hurt your feelings because you care what that person thinks. And if that person is putting you down to try and make you feel bad, their words should not matter to you at all..
I hate to break it to you, but what you just described is precisely what stigmatising gayness does.
That's unbelievably privileged and offensive
It's not "just words" when everyone in your life is screaming insults at you and making laws to restrict your rights
Psychology would love a word.