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[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I personally don't like to ID as trans because I often think you're transitioning from one gender to the other, I don't see nonbinary as a gender. But for cishet society at large, it's much easier to explain your trans, and I mean nonbinary does fall under the category of transgender. So I often will say trans binary and nonbinary people so that it can be included in the trans or it can not be.

Also I wish people who didn't learn a thing or two in English class understood what the word trans and cis as prefixes mean. A word's a slur once the majority use it in a negative light. Trans people take up like 0.01% of the population. So miniscule.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Thanks so much for that.

Exactly my understanding of it. We were talking about it today. Non binary people are not always in some kind of transition. I know some who are but still identify as non binary. I can't understand what it would feel like to be non binary, as I am binary. I am defined as transgender, but i'm taking oestrogen and blocking testosterone to transition to my correct biological gender, grow and shrink, have accurate female emotions be more in touch with my intuition among the myriad effects I am feeling. It takes time so it is a transition. I now present as female feeling more comfortable in myself than I ever did trying to be a man, which i am not. I am a woman. That's what I am. That people name it transgender is really a misnomer, my motivations and desires have always been far more aligned with being female and its been that way since I can remember. I'm correcting my gender more accurately. We all face some the same discriminations though however today its become apparent how much more difficult is it to be non binary. People can simplify things with words like sex change but they don't want to understand that some people cannot be male or female or name their gender anything. Its simple for a bank to change my name, gender and title.

I think gender diverse would be a better catch all for people who aren't the gender they were assigned at birth or for those who have no gender at all.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

It sucks for everyone all 'round tbh. Trans women are being misgendered and you know the whole predator b.s. Trans men are called closeted lesbians or invisble. Nonbinary folks are also invisible or within ally™️ spaces they're seen as women lite if you're AFAB and if you're AMAB well... sucks to be you I guess.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

yep, hard truths here. I can deal with a lot of crap because I'm being truthful but allies? Hmmm.