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[–] SickPanda 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

it's not a "success story". I've experienced ALOT of bad stuff before my gf messaged me. I've been on multiple dating platforms and all of them were toxic af. I was deleting my accounts while my gf texted me.

[–] [email protected] -4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Having bad experiences doesn't erase the fact that you got a long term girlfriend from using online dating. That is still what happened. Unless you want to break up with your girlfriend right now, denying it's a success story is denying reality.

Like are you people really old or what? Everyone who can't stfu about how bad online dating is always confuses me.

[–] SickPanda 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I guess i have to go a little more into detail to make you understand. I've been using online dating from age 16-20 and made only bad expirences. That's why I was deleting all of my accounts. my girlfriend was the first woman who messaged me first and I immediately told her that I am deleting my account so we have to stay connected via WhatsApp. is it a success that I found a long term girlfriend? Yes Does it erase the shitload of bad stuff I experienced in the 4 years before her message? no.

It's a fact that online dating is toxic. Both Bumble and Tinder released statistics which show that women want the top 15% of men. Most men end up with single digit likes, if they even get any. Women's inboxes on the other hand explode from unsolicited wiener pics or similar unwanted messages.

[–] [email protected] -4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

It isn't a "fact". The only fact you seem intent on ignoring is that people suck in general which isn't a reflection on how tOxIC apps are. You found someone who doesn't suck but we obviously can't credit to the existence of an app for that, but we sure can blame all the people sucking on it right? Such a silly hill to die on.

Also I don't think any dating site has allowed sending pictures for a while, so no dick pics wouldn't really be an issue.

I'm average looking but still managed to get dozens of dates. Rejection sucks and the apps give you a lot of that but they also, again, demonstrably, give us long term relationships. It's a FACT. An actual FACT. Subjective experiences are not facts, however us both having girlfriends right now is. Now tell me again how that doesn't count for literally anything because women usually don't message us back.

[–] SickPanda 0 points 1 year ago

Bro seriously if someone is subjective then it's you. Someone offered you to provide you with articles regarding online dating and you refused because of your "first hand experience" Everything I said is proofed. We found a long term relationship, but most men end up frustrated.

study shows women on dating apps are more selective than men

study shows users of dating apps have higher levels of depression and anxiety