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The important thing is a conversation about communication expectations. You went to the internet to complain about a difference in communication expectations without having that conversation with her first.
If you don’t like the way she handles texts, you can set up a calendar with notifications that function similarly to texts for her since you’re already doing that. That requires zero input on her part, just the app set up on her phone.
It was a minor irritation. I didn't expect anyone to take it so seriously.
I can respect that!
The toxic attitude that every single piece of digital communication requires a response is a serious pet peeve of mine, which is why I did. Extend your attitude to, say, online dating which is probably a reality for someone your daughter’s age. She doesn’t have to respond to everything that comes her way. That’s terrible. Extend your attitude to, say, workplace communication. This is a serious problem that leads to burnout and analysis paralysis. Communication has drastically changed and continuing to teach people “you have to respond to everything” is a conservative belief that does not fit with current attention demands.