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Sex education for REALLY promiscuos people? (lemmy.eco.br)
submitted 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]
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So...

I've always been quiet and never had much sex. That has changed. I'm in the kind of phase that people look at me and say: "You were so nice! What went wrong!?" And now I'll have sex with men, women, ~~hookers~~ escorts, ~~removeds~~ not fully transitioned MtoF transsexuals, robots, I'll probably engage in BDSM, piss play, breath play, and other exotic activities. I won't engange in drugs/chemsex that's where I draw the line.

Thus, the advice I've always been given and followed looks a little inadequate. Somehow saying to just use condoms, pills and IUD looks like insufficient knowledge to the kind of behavior I'll engage in.

Therefore I need to up my game into sex ed and STIs knowledge and prevention. I've been looking inton PrEP, but I really need to read more about diseases and prevention to protect myself and be able to treat myself if I catch something.

Any suggestion of videos, books, and other learning resources that goes beyond the "just use a condom and have a single partner?"

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[โ€“] [email protected] 111 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (2 children)

  1. Get the HPV vaccine

  2. Get and start PrEP!!!!!!

  3. Never brush your teeth before or after sex, tooth brushes can create microcuts in your gums. Mouthwash is better.

  4. If your partner gives you bad feelings, has arm marks, or suspicious bumps or rashes, just say no!

  5. Try to pee after every sexual encounter, it can help flush away anything nasty.

  6. If your very promiscuous consider removing your pubic hair to reduce vectors for crabs.

  7. If your partner smells, it could be yeast, best to avoid sex. But if you do it anyway apply a antifungal to your fun jungle just in case.

  8. Get your vaccines for hepatitis, flu shot, COVID. Your going to be in close quarters with lots of people, so normal infections will be more likely

  9. Find a doctor you like, and tell them your a mega slut, don't lie at all. Let them help reduce your risk surface.

  10. It's a good idea to shower between partners, just general hygiene.

Bonus A: not all sex has the same risk, anything with blood is very dangerous. Mouth fluids are the safest. Vaginal discharge is safer then penile discharge. Rough order of sexual risk:

  • mouth to mouth
  • all types of oral sex
  • vaginal to vaginal sex
  • male circumcised having vaginal sex
  • male uncircumcised having vaginal sex
  • female having vaginal sex (female is at greater risk)
  • giving anal sex
  • receiving anal sex (the riskiest activity of them all)

Bonus B: if your having enough sex, someone is going to get pregnant... eventually. Be prepared for that and have a plan. (Especially if your doing stuff bareback, but it's going to happen even with protection) ... eventually

Resources: https://www.pulse-clinic.com/resources/stis

[โ€“] [email protected] 30 points 11 months ago (1 children)

I think I might throw frequent STD screens on that list as well. Maybe talk with a counselor too just to make sure your mind is in a good place.

[โ€“] [email protected] 12 points 11 months ago (1 children)

100%. If your on prep your clinic will do a std panel every 6 months or less... well they should

[โ€“] [email protected] 7 points 11 months ago

Right, but sometimes you have to advocate for yourself.

[โ€“] [email protected] 25 points 11 months ago

This is the first time Iโ€™ve heard about advice #3. It makes sense but I never thought about brushing becoming a vector.