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Thoughts on having more than one non-barriered sexual partner (mtgzone.com)

submitted 1 year ago by [email protected] to c/polyamory

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Hello everyone. I recently learned there are a handful of people in my community who engage in non-barriered intercourse by default (sex with multiple partners without condoms).

I try to keep to only one non-barriered partner, to minimize any STI spread that may occur. Though testing is important, there are risks that 1. A test may be wrong, and 2. An infection can be introduced and spread after a successful clean test.

Also, my partner has a history of getting BV if her non-barriered partner(s) have other non-barriered partners. So, we keep it to only one non-barriered partner (for intercourse).

Any thoughts on this? Is it ethical to have more than one? Is it sustainable to only have one?

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I use a condom with everyone and I think it's insane people don't. I don't trust everyone in the world. I somewhat trust my partners but I certainly don't trust their partners, or their partners' partners, or their partners' partners' partners'.

But I can't control them or their decisions. Only my own. So I use a condom. Simple. Effective.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Entirely reasonable, if you are ok with never feeling the pleasure of raw sex.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

The difference between with and without a condom has been pretty marginal.