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The argument really isn't against pronouns.
It's against censorship. Why shouldn't I be able to remove that feature from my game if I want to?
Is it really hurting anyone if I don't want stupid pronouns in my game?
I'll note that I don't own the game and have never played it. Just an outside observer watching the stupidity.
I can tell you definitively that yes, this debate hurts people. Sending the statement that it's a valid point of view to consider trans people mentally ill (or worse) harms people. If you look at how our existence is being debated and the consequences of that you would have to be very privileged to not see a problem.
NexusMods is a private company with their own conditions for using their services.
You are not entitled to anything on others’ properties, including your ability to speak.
There is no freedom of speech here on lemmy.world either for you, they can restrict and block your posts from being seen by others, still their rights to do so.
That's still a form of censorship. Arguing over the definition of the word is brain dead anyway.
Your second paragraph is all you need to say.
The more I think about it, you're right. I edited it.
thats self censorship!!!!
It's a pretty common conversation and people rarely appreciate my pedantry, so thanks =D
Dude, I went through character creation and barely noticed the pronoun option was even there. The mod is unnecessary
I thought so too, but you and I are not everyone else. Imagine if they removed a mod that included pronouns. I would still be against censorship.
Nexus Mods is a private site with their own terms of conditions. They are saying no to mods that removes diversity and it is their rights.
People can go elsewhere instead.
This isn't a court of law and I'm not arguing the statutes. I don't like unilateral censorship in any form and I'd be equally butt hurt if they banned a mod to include pronouns.
Bear in mind we are both here because of the actions of a private corpo.
A mod that makes other people feel included is NOT on the same level as a mod that deliberately excludes them. There's a massive difference here.
The pronoun removing mod is a pretty blatant message of hate and deserves to be moderated as such. People can go on about freedom of speech blah blah blah, but no one is required to include you in their community if you're being mean and hateful. That's exactly what happened here.
If you don't want to feel excluded then don't install the mod.
I don't understand why people argue for less options that don't affect them.
No one is forcing the mod on you. Is it really that harmful that it exists?
I don't give 2 shits if a mod exists that makes everyone in the game trans or gay or anything else. I'm just not going to install the mod unless it improves the game in some way or it sounds like it would make the game more interesting with alternative play styles or something.
I'm never going to argue that the mod I'm not interested in should be removed because it's not reinforcing my beliefs.
Tolerance goes both ways. I tolerate your beliefs and you tolerate mine.
That tolerance doesn't exist in this woke reality we are enduring at the moment. Anything that doesn't repeat the correct narrative is subjected to cancel culture. It's always my way or the highway.
Yes, in very much the same way that hate speech is moderated out of communities, and for good reason. Allowing this stuff to exist is basically saying that this is okay when it frankly isn't. Imagine if there was a mod out there that removed your entire race and culture out of the game. How would that make you feel if you were just scrolling through the list of mods? It's just a shitty statement to make.
We moderate things like the N-word and antisemitic Nazi bullshit out of forums all the time. This is the exact same thing and if you can't see that, well frankly you're probably in a position of privilege.
This argument is frequently used by the intolerant to justify their actions. The one's who identify as
theyaren't the ones going around telling those who identify asheorshethat they're wrong. It's the other way around. You're completely misidentifying who's being intolerant here.I don't know how to do the cool quote thing you did but I'll answer in order.
This argument is just trying to find reasons to be offended.
I'll give you an example that will definitely trigger you. I play HOI4. That game is a historical WW2 game. The game does not have an accurate flag for Germany because it's symbol is not allowed to be shown in Germany. I always use a mod to put the proper Nazi flag in the game because I want my historical game to be representitive of the period. Denying me the ability to use it doesn't make the historical event suddenly not happen. It happened. Am I suddenly a Nazi supporter because I want my war game to reflect reality?
Im not out Heil Hitlering, or calling for the deaths of millions of Jews. I'm just playing was war game in the privacy of my own home.
In Australia the racist word people used for indigenous was 'coon'. I've never used it and I never will. Ive not even heard anyone use it since maybe the 80s when a kid was trying to be an edgelord. Do I think the word should be banned internationally just because some wankers used it 30+ years ago? No. If you're using it in a hateful way against someone or a people, then sure, that bastard should face some consequences.
I'm just never going to support blanket banning activities or words for everyone because of a few bad actors.
I think that's a terrible idea.
Now we are onto the apparently oppressed rich western people that want to be called some idiotic pronouns like xi, or horse person or some other BS. I'm not doing it. It's too stupid.
If someone wants to be called she instead of he, then whatever, I'll call them it. It causes me no harm and I really don't care. Live your best life.
Blocking a person from modifying their game because you don't like the idea? That's Nazi book burning philosophy right there. If you can't see it irony then I don't know what to say to you. You think your in the right, but your actually to oppressor, even if you think it's with good intentions.
That's exactly what the creator of this mod intended and its hilarious that you don't see that.
Think about it this way. There's a reason why you don't use it, right? There's a reason why your friends don't use it. If one of your friends uses it all the time to hate on others, would you be okay with that? If its as offensive as you say it is and I have no reason to doubt otherwise, would you want to be associated with that? Probably not. You're making conscious decisions every day about who you want to hang out with, who you want to be associated with. You've cultivated your own community of people who you like and want to hang out with.
That's exactly what Nexus Mods is doing. They want to cultivate a community that's gender inclusive. They don't want to deal with people who aren't, nor give them a platform to do so. They're within their right to do so.
Just because Nexus Mods is an online community doesn't mean it's different from real life. That's what people fail to understand.
On "removing a mod that lets you commit pedophilia"
"...How dare you. Imagine if they removed a mod that got rid of pedophilia".
Do you see why "both sides" of the issue are not "exactly alike"?
You can so whatever you want to your installation of the game on your computer. Nexus does not have to host it. No freedoms lost.
But we all know you're not using the mod, you just want it up to stick it to the libs.
he/she/they doesn't even own the game, just wanted to have a bigoted whinge
which is stupider, "he" or "she"
"it" is probably stupider, honestly.
How about names. Do you call Muhammad Ali still Cassius Clay? Just because that’s the name he was given at birth. Should people not have the right to change their name? Like it is here in Germany. And what exactly do you consider stupid about the pronouns them or they? I think they (!) are just normal pronouns, aren’t they? And for quite some time they are regularly used to replace single persons, if the gender of that person isn‘t known. I know that because when that started I was totally confused because I had learned different at school in the 70s.
My only take on the pronoun thing is please don't get mad at me and go into lecture mode if I forget your preferred pronouns for a second. It's essentially muscle memory, and I will already feel bad about it just by your facial expression from the mistake.
People generally shouldn't get mad as long as you're behaving in good faith. It's like accidentally calling someone by the wrong name, you just apologise and correct your mistake.
Trans and non-binary people often get portrayed as if they're monsters, but most are reasonable people who can understand mistakes and are capable of accepting apologies.
The more I think about all of this, the more rude I find even using pronouns instead of their name in general... are there certain sayings in English that generally require defaulting to pronouns? I am having a hard time coming up with many.
(Yes I am aware of the fact I used a pronoun to type this, but it's not directed to a specific audience)
Generally speaking, it's awkward in English (or even weird) to constantly use the Proper Noun every single time you refer to a person.
Simplest example is "Jim got into his car". "Jim got into Jim's car" is strange. And that's within a single sentence. Properly in English, we use gendered pronouns for all unambiguous references to a person several sentences in a row. For example:
"Jim got into his car. He turned it on, and hit the gas. When he saw a red light, he stopped quickly. Jim got impatient, and honked on the horn". That would be entirely proper, and virtually none of those pronouns should be replaced with Jim's proper name.
Thank you. This explained how pronouns would be used, at first I always imagined you would be taking to "jim", bur after reading I could see where you may be telling a story about "Jim" to others as a third party. I know that sounds dumb, but I never claimed to be smart.
I appreciate you taking the effort to comment instead of just downvoting like some others.
Not a problem. People don't usually think about pronouns. We could circumvent a lot of confusion if there were an agreeable gender-neutral pronoun in English... But people have gone back and forth about the only one we have ("they") enough that it rubs both sides wrong. Gendering a person in a sentence rarely disambiguates... it only maters if you have a conversation with exactly 1 male and female subject and ZERO genderable objects.
A man and a woman sitting in a boat, for example, and "her" still might be ambiguous.
Personally, it's nbd when people slip up - especially people who've known me for a very long time pre-transition. Oftentimes they correct themselves, and I usually feel worse that they feel bad about it. It's pretty easy to tell when it's intentional or not, and I reserve my ire for people who clearly mean disrespect.
Though, I should say, that's now - early on in transition, it was certainly a bit harder to take. It reminded me of very fresh family abandonment and abuse over my identity. That's not on the people who accidentally called me by the wrong pronoun, but it certainly could put me in a pretty bad place and I'm sure I wasn't the friendliest in those moments. The more that trans folks are supported by their friends and family, the more secure they feel and the less likely they are to react strongly to being accidentally misgendered, imo.
But what the anti-trans people tend to miss when making the "offended every mis-gender" is the wide gulf of difference between being hurt and being offended. I've known people in Emergency Services who had PTSD triggered by off-color comments that reminded them of something they lived through (things like "he'll have your head for this"... you can imagine why).
They weren't offended by those off-color comments. They were hurt. And those of us who care about them are careful not to say things that hurt those we love. But if we do slip up, we know and they know that it wasn't out of malice, and nobody is offended.
...except the people who want to call you by your deadname because hurting you makes them feel good. They are offended, and they want to hurt you. And nobody should be making excuses for them. Dozens of people here are, and that's a shame.
Well said. We'd be so much better off if people generally had a better understanding of (c)PTSD. Everyone has a responsibility for how they act, but maladaptation is a hell of a thing and takes lots of time to address, especially when people know these triggers and weaponize them because they want to see you hurt.
No one gets upset if you forget for a second. That's not real.
You could, you just can't host it there.
It's not censorship when private groups are doing it. Moreso, I think the entire world has figured out the right answer to the Paradox of Tolerance is intolerance (yes, even censorship).
There are two reasons said censorship is okay.
Remember, there is no free speech absolutism where all speech is protected. Anyone who claims otherwise is lying or ignorant. What we're arguing about is whether to draw the line at malicious behavior that is already more harmful than speech many of us are already against.
And from your "don't want stupid pronouns in my game", you show you've fallen for bullet point #2.
People say Lemmy isn't a hivemind but the reaction to your comment proves that this is not the case.
I'm pro choice either way. If people want to identify as they, them, it. It's up to them. If people want the option to remove that from their game it's also up to them. Who cares either way.
This is the wrong take tbh. It isn't about censorship. The mod itself is a message of hate and deserves to be moderated as such, just like on any other platform.
Imagine if you were scrolling through NexusMods and you saw a mod that removed characters of your ethnicity or race from the game, or maybe a mod that added say Nazi symbols or something. How would that make you feel? Mods get removed over inappropriate content all the time, this is no different.
You know there are WW2 games that have mods that do exactly this, right? Specifically because they don't use Nazi imagery to refer to Nazi Germany because that imagery is illegal in Germany so they use substitute imagery that's Germany-safe to represent Nazi Germany, because that's cheaper than managing two editions where one is historically accurate and the other is Germany-friendly. For an example of this, see Hearts of Iron.
Then you get mods that restore the historically correct imagery.
Lol I feel like you're just proving my point. The question isn't whether these mods exist. Of course they do. But an entire country has made such symbolism illegal specifically because its a bad part of their past and they find it offensive. They're within their right to do so and so is Nexus Mods. Nexus Mods are allowed to remove whatever content they find offensive to cultivate the community that they want.
Share your opinion, get downvoted. Feels just like reddit!
Shit opinions get downvoted????? No way!!! Why would people do this!?!?!?
You are still speaking your opinion on a private site but you don’t get to escape from consequences because others disagree with it.
No I do not, no one should. Your comment is the correct way of disagreeing, downvote parades are not.
Bear in mind I don't give a shit about pronouns or no pronouns, I am against the unilateral censorship of a mod.
Hates unilateral censorship, wants to unilaterally censor our downvotes
With the way G*mers are trying to justify being shitheads. It does feel like Reddit.