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I'm sure lots of ADHDers know what I mean. Situations where you're not meaning ill intent, but the way that a situation turns out makes it seem like you're the bad guy/girl.

How do you handle the situation without seeming like a victim or that you're making excuses for yourself? Do you explain the situation or just accept it and hope that enough time will reveal your true character?

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I've found that the best way is to explain myself like I'm 5. If somebody gives me a weird look after I give a dead pan joke, I'll stop what I'm saying and go "oh, sorry, I'm a very dead pan person and I was trying to make a joke, I guess it didn't come off that way, my mistake!"

Sure, at first it sounds weird or unnatural but I find that this has worked out better for me rather than staying quiet and blaming them for not appreciating my sense of humor.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (2 children)

oh, sorry, I’m a very dead pan person and I was trying to make a joke, I guess it didn’t come off that way, my mistake

This kills the joke

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

I'd rather kill a joke rather than be disrespectful. The sooner you learn this, the happier your life will be and more people will enjoy having you around.