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What does the fear of being judged by others hold you back from doing that you would otherwise do? (sopuli.xyz)

submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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To be fair I still do these things but only when I'm alone.

Personally I love finding big puddles and then dig drains with a stick or my heel and watch the water flow.

Also love to throw a piece of wood into water and then toss stones high up in the air and try hit it imagining it's a warship I'm trying to bomb.

Then also without going into details there are some pieces of clothing I would like to wear but don't because they're considered femine or gay.

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[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 year ago (5 children)

As soon as you leave high school, if not before, you should be your own person. Blaming others for things you want to do isn't healthy and shouldn't be used as an excuse.

[–] greendakota99 17 points 1 year ago (1 children)

This comment reminds me of telling a depressed individual to “just smile more”.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 year ago (1 children)

That would absolutely be the opposite of what I'm saying. Don't do things for others, do things for yourself.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

Thanks, I'm cured!

[–] bleepbloopbleep 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

True. But not possible for everyone. Hence the millions of therapists out there being busy .

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Yea agreed. Therapy while improving material conditions of society would go a long way.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

Tell this to those that were bullied for being themselves. Not just in high school, but as adults. You'll find plenty in the comment section.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

Depending on what OP wants to wear and where they live it could be dangerous.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

You're right. And yet people still do it. Hence this post.