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What does the fear of being judged by others hold you back from doing that you would otherwise do? (sopuli.xyz)

submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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To be fair I still do these things but only when I'm alone.

Personally I love finding big puddles and then dig drains with a stick or my heel and watch the water flow.

Also love to throw a piece of wood into water and then toss stones high up in the air and try hit it imagining it's a warship I'm trying to bomb.

Then also without going into details there are some pieces of clothing I would like to wear but don't because they're considered femine or gay.

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[–] [email protected] 45 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

Because when I do what I want, I get called a "retard" or asked "what the fuck are you doing?" by the people around me. I make a point to try to do things quietly (stopping to observe a cool bug, making chalk drawings on the sidewalk, saying "wheee!" on the swings, etc.), but it really doesn't matter.

I've caught glimpses of people filming me before, so I now only do what I want in privacy.

Also doesn't help that I've been accused of "doing it for attention." Nah, my dude, pretty sure I'm just fckin' autistic.

I only want people to leave me alone now. I don't like having to justify my actions when I'm just trying to enjoy myself.

[–] khannie 15 points 1 year ago (2 children)

People who love you should be happy that something's bringing you joy.

I would gently suggest surrounding yourself with kinder people. You should be able to stop and look at an insect in fascination or swing on a swing without being abused.

You'll find those people :)

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago

Thank you. Maybe one day.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

I mean, they mentioned people filming them. I don't know if they can surround themselves with kinder people to avoid that situation. That sounds like a general public issue if people are just filming someone like that.

Think of those shitty videos you see people upload. Like that lady on the airplane who was having a fucking mental breakdown. And people were just filming it for their own amusement.

hate to say it but people in general really do suck.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

The difference between weird reactions and no reaction when observing cool bugs is holding a camera