AuDHD
A place for those that got both Autism and ADHD, those confirmed as one and are suspecting they got the other as well, and also everyone who is neither and just genuinely curious.
Since the combo comes with its own set of challenges, this shall be a place to ask for advice, vent, infodump about special interests and/or just vibe and meme.
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When the goal is to have a better understanding of myself, if looking at myself through the lens of autism is useful, even without a clinical diagnosis, I have no problem doing that. Between that, and Zoloft, and simply being older, I'm a lot more "okayer" with myself than I was even two or three years ago.
The "older" part is important. While I still wish I had the kind of interpersonal relationships that I see other people having, I've come to terms with the fact that we don't always get what we wish for, that being somewhat isolated and internalized is my lot. I can either do something about it, or be okay with it, or some combination of the two - but being disappointed in it (and in myself by extension) isn't doing anyone any good. Not me, not my family, not the tiny handful of friends I do have.
Is there a difference between embracing who you are and giving up on who you want to be? Does it matter if there is?
I think there isn't a difference, I think leaving the ideas that society (an ableist society, at that) has imprinted on us from birth of who we should be, and instead embracing who we are are two sides of a really healthy coin.
Probably the most important lesson I took from my diagnosis is that my boundaries are legitimate and valid, and that it is those who disrespect them that are wrong, not me for setting them. Some of those boundaries mean I exclude myself from situations I know will be overwhelming, or I exclude people from my life who refuse to communicate with me in a way that I can deal with.
I agree that a lot of this comes with age, but I also think that realising that we simply don't process the world around us the same way NT do and that most of the world around us caters to them, can go a long way in to reassuring yourself that you aren't the "problem", and that you taking care of your own needs is fair enough (if not radical), whatever that looks like.