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A place to discuss privacy and freedom in the digital world.

Privacy has become a very important issue in modern society, with companies and governments constantly abusing their power, more and more people are waking up to the importance of digital privacy.

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Those of you who are married, how do you go about privacy if your wife or husband does not care? (lemm.ee)

submitted 1 year ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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I have always been curious about this. Did you get them to use other services or did they stubbornly refuse and you just accepted it? I am talking using Chrome, using Windows, using social media like Tiktok or Facebook or Instagram, etc. Bonus points if you have kids because that is even more work in the privacy realm

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[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 year ago (1 children)

@starlord Why does she think you could become a conspiracy theorist? I have had random non-tech people tell me that they felt like their devices are watching them or listening in.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I really can't say, we simply don't agree. I say "I'd just rather my data belongs to me and curate who I share it with" and she hears "GIANT SPACE LIZARDS ARE TRYING TO MELT THE AMAZON" and just pictures me wearing a tin-foil hat.

I once asked her "If someone was standing outside our window, watching and taking notes, would you draw the curtains?" and she spent more time arguing that the metaphor was ridiculous and irrelevant than actually rationalizing the point I was trying to make. Literally no argument I've seen works on her. She just doesn't agree.

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[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I suppose we've reached a "agree to disagree and don't talk about it as a result" status, which I'm willing to accept, sorta choosing which hill I wanna die on, ya know?

It's just that I wish there was more support, whereas I feel instead that there's ridicule or disrespect because her standpoint comes across more as "I'm right and you are wrong so I think less of you for it."

But, focusing on the privacy topic rather than relationship advice, I really just wish there were a way for me to present her with a case that allowed her to validate my arguments and respect them, even if she doesn't agree. I think that's just asking too much because there isn't a single justification I've ever put forth with which she could understand my opinion.

No privacy supporting suggestion works with her because she simply doesn't value it. I guess I could be projecting expectations, but I think I'm valid in wanting my views respected, even if they aren't conceded.