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[–] Hazdaz -2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

A lot of gay people state that they were born that way. OK, fine. I'm not going to argue that, but when many gay people also try to "turn" straight people into being gay. So how does that work?? That's like having your gay cake and eating it too.

[–] scarabic 1 points 1 year ago

This question is full of aggressive energy so I’m not sure I should try to answer it. But I’ll give it a shot.

There is a difference. That difference is that our culture is predominantly straight and it programs people with the belief that straight is normal. Much of the time it also programs people to believe that gay is evil.

So there might be people out there who are predisposed to be gay, but have never allowed themselves to explore that. Those people will only ever discover their true selves if they feel it is safe, and can imagine it leading to a life they would be okay with.

Encouragement from healthy gay people can be part of that. This encouragement can also be badly done and somewhat abusive. Not every gay person in the world is healthy or very smart. And there are situations where people get too aggressive about “come on just try it you’ll like it.”

But I would say don’t judge all gay people based on that. And don’t ignore that our culture is biased toward being straight so coming out is often a process of unlearning what you have been taught.