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How to deal with bullies? (self.autism)
submitted 1 year ago by medvedev to c/autism
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I'm 13y old that was recently diagnosed with ASD. School is starting soon, they surely haven't changed nor a little bit. They're just bunch of idiots that like to express their pain and anger on others. Or just fool them for fun. Reporting them does nothing (have been doing that for almost 6 years). It's like reporting system in CP (Club Penguin), no one is even sure if it even does anything. I never do anything to them, I just stare at them or do something else. That I have blank face or sound calm dosen't mean that I'm calm. When I answer in short sentences that either means that I don't have inspiration to talk or that I hold lots of emotions in me. And, about blank face... I ALMOST ALWAYS HAVE BLANK FACE. I almost never express my emotions on my face. So, should I just throw a tantrum without caring for consequences or act tought. Does entire community of ASDers need to act like douchebags just to not be an easy target for bullying?!

P.S I've posted this in c/autism because I feel like this problem is deeply tied with my personality. -medvedev-

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[–] FartsWithAnAccent 8 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

As long as you don't go crazy, not at all. Start off gradually, don't overdo it, but some moderate strength training along with regular cardio will not only help you look better and less appealing as a target, it can do wonders for mental health and emotional resilience.

Learning practical martial arts like boxing, muay thai, jiu jitsu, and/or krav maga might not be a bad idea either. Not to say you should go around fighting people who mistreat you, but it is good exercise, can build confidence, and if you are targeted with violence, you will be better equipped to deal with the situation. The best way to win a fight is to not have to fight in the first place, but there may come a time where you are not left with a choice.

[–] BackOnMyBS 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

if i ever have a kid, i'm totally going to encourage that they learn martial arts as soon as they're old enough

[–] FartsWithAnAccent 3 points 1 year ago

Start training early and start learning yourself now if you haven't already.

[–] half_built_pyramids 4 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Yes. The gym folks would love to help a kid. Don't just work out at the school. Find a gym that'll help do it right.

Besides, I have a theory that half the people in the gym are on the spectrum and undiagnosed. Counting calories like crazy, obsess over bro science, headphones in and don't talk to anyone. There's lots of signs. Good chance to find people to relate to.

[–] FartsWithAnAccent 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

One of my MT teachers was definitely on the spectrum, super friendly but I wouldn't fuck with him in a million years.

[–] half_built_pyramids 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Montana teacher?

[–] FartsWithAnAccent 4 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Muay Thai, never been to Montana but I like to think that Sam Elliot narrates everything in your head when you're there.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I'm from there and yeah, he and Morgan Freeman split narration duty here.

[–] FartsWithAnAccent 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Huh, I thought Morgan Freeman had South Dakota...

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Besides, I have a theory that half the people in the gym are on the spectrum and undiagnosed. Counting calories like crazy, obsess over bro science, headphones in and don't talk to anyone. There's lots of signs. Good chance to find people to relate to.

Oh wow you might be on to something