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A community for transfeminine people and experiences.

This is a supportive community for all transfeminine or questioning people. Anyone is welcome to participate in this community but disrupting the safety of this space for trans feminine people is unacceptable and will result in moderator action.

Debate surrounding transgender rights or acceptance will result in an immediate ban.

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Some helpful links:

The Gender Dysphoria Bible // In depth explanation of the different types of gender dysphoria.
Trans Voice Help // A community here on blahaj.zone for voice training.
LGBTQ+ Healthcare Directory // A directory of LGBTQ+ accepting Healthcare providers.
Trans Resistance Network // A US-based mutual aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination.
TLDEF's Trans Health Project // Advice about insurance claims for gender affirming healthcare and procedures.
TransLifeLine's ID change Library // A comprehensive guide to changing your name on any US legal document.
Gender Spectrum // Resources for youth, parents and family, educators, mental health professionals and faith leaders.

Support Hotlines:

The Trevor Project // Web chat, phone call, and text message LGBTQ+ support hotline.
TransLifeLine // A US/Canada LGBTQ+ phone support hotline service. The US line has Spanish support.
LGBT Youthline.ca // A Canadian LGBT hotline support service with phone call and web chat support. (4pm - 9:30pm EST)
988lifeline // A US only Crisis hotline with phone call, text and web chat support. Dedicated staff for LGBTQIA+ youth 24/7 on phone service, 3pm to 2am EST for text and web chat.

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Should I de-transition so liberals don't see me and say maybe the republicans are on to something (pricefield.org)

submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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So I look very ugly and honestly don't look feminine at all and just look like a guy with girls' clothes draped over him. I have been on HRT for a year and 6 months, I went from 4 to 6mg in April and I still look pretty terrible, I am not sure what I can do differently and I feel like maybe I am overweight which ruined my chances at ever passing and I should have lost it pre hrt. all of my selfies including this one are taken at angles to make me look better, this is one of the few photos I have at a normal angle (this was taken before my college graduation) as you can see I pretty much just look like a dude. I am honestly not even sure if FFS could help me or if a doctor would even consider it worth while.

FOR THE DUMBASS PEPES from the troll instances in the comments I will not listening to your comments, thank you.

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Let me start by saying your insecurities are completely normal and something all women go through whether they were born a woman or not. Society puts forward a standard of beauty that is literally impossible to achieve naturally. Women come in all shapes and looks and you and they should not feel pressured to have to please others with how you look, and also, you don't look bad.

It's also perfectly fine to want to look better for yourself, and you are 100% capable of doing that and looking more feminine. You can mold your eyebrows, do your hair, learn makeup. Look up makeup tutorials online and see how insane of a transformation they can achieve, both men and women. Even if you decide you don't care about changing your look, it's a very valuable reminder that most people's outward appearances are not natural.

Again, you should not feel pressured to do any of that, but you should also not feel like you cannot learn to have more control over how you look if you choose to. I don't want to pretend that personal appearance has no impact on your personal confidence but I also don't want to pressure you to feel like you need to do a bunch of things either, so I don't want to be like do this and that to conform to a societal beauty standard, but I do want to say that there is nothing intently wrong with how you look that would prevent you from doing so.