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Trying to control my anxiety.
I thought I silenced my phone notifications but they kept rolling through and popping up and I fixed it yet I still check to see if more came in.
Anxiety can’t be fixed because I’m dealing with family and it’s my fault I’m in this position that I am now.
Trying not yo let it get to me but I don’t know if I’ll be able to just ignore it.
For the longest time I had a note on my phone that said “don’t fight the storm”. It’s a fancy way of saying don’t try to control it. You can’t, you won’t win so don’t try. Learn to role with the waves rather than letting them crash into you or trying to fight them off.
Don't fight the storm, be the cow that gets blown around in the tornado.
I’ll try and follow that advice. There are potential consequences if the outcome and tolerance isn’t sufficient in regards to the other party.
That definitely isn’t under my control. :(
Aww big hugs. I know that feeling. Messages from family give me a lot of anxiety and I try to ignore it too. I try to find some distraction, get some shit done before I have the strength to look and respond. It's not a nice feeling. Sorry not very helpful but hope you feel better soon...
I have previously responded and they’re just asking the same questions again and making things really unpleasant.
I just want to have a civil discussion and understanding but I fear it won’t be a reasonable discussion given how it’s getting more aggressive or passive aggressive.
It was probably triggered by the hot water breaking down.
I finally started to make good on a promise slowly and I guess I’m getting the messages because they’re not happy with it.
Aw man if you've done what you can to answer their questions, it's totally fair to just time out and get back to your life at least for today. Boundaries are hard to draw with family but you gotta do what you gotta do sometimes :(