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We're allowed to be depressed and frustrated. The fact that we can realise our privilege doesn't mean we lack perspective- it means we're tired of life's bullshit. Have some empathy.
I DO have empathy. You ARE allowed to feel depressed and frustrated. Your comment at the end came out of nowhere. You went from talking about being miserable and how awful everything is, and I was nodding along as another depressed frustrated person, and then blame people calling out white privilege.
Most people who do that deny that it exists. If you're not one of those people, then I'm sorry I misunderstood what you were saying and will take it as a general nonsequitur.
Yes, I'm the original poster; you were responding to somebody else before.
To clarify, I'm not blaming people pointing out systemic privilege, I'm just getting a bit fed up of having it leveled at me, an extremely poor person who was disowned by his family, hospitalised and made homeless on two occasions. Both parents had mental health issues of their own, which had an impact on my upbringing.
In general the people who attack me for my race and gender tend to be relatively wealthy white women, or (less frequently) wealthy mixed-race women with one white parent. I wonder if it's a cognitive dissonance thing, as a response to their own wealth privilege.
I use the term wealth privilege because globally that's really what the issue is. I don't want to fall into the trap of generalising based on my immediate surroundings. Certainly the wealth skews male and white where I live, although the richest family in the UK is actually Indian.
I benefit materially from being male because I don't have to worry about pregnancy. That's the most fundamental systemic inequality I can think of, and it's in our genes. I absolutely understand that, and am vocally supportive of legal protections for women.
Looking at the USA I can see the alarming difference in inherited wealth between "races" and it's astonishing, and the sheer extent of the racism I hear about from certain areas is disturbing.
I do not live in an ethnically homogenous area and have always had friends from various backgrounds. Anecdotally, the material deprivation in a subset of white working-class households is more severe, which is likely a geographical thing. The majority of minority households skew towards middle-class here (suburban to rural), as wealthier first- and second-generation immigrant families moved away from population hubs.
The person saying "have some empathy" and the person complaining about being called privileged are two different accounts, fyi.
Oh. I should've checked. Thank you!!!