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Have you ever had sex completely ruined by something going on outside the room or the building? What was it? (reddthat.com)

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For me it was the kid next door screaming at her mum. Went soft as a wet noodle.

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[–] [email protected] 81 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Tl:dr Discovered I have a phobia for sleight-of-hand magicians and it ruined the most romantic opportunity of my life.

I booked an expensive, bougie hotel room for me and my (at the time) boyfriend, and we were planning on a wild night. He asked me to leave the room for an hour for him to prepare, so I went to the hotel bar for a drink. A guy approached me to bum a cig and began doing random magic tricks - pulling cards out of nowhere, making things appear in my pocket, and making ashes appear in my palm. I'm not sure why, but I absolutely panicked - it felt so violating to think that he was in my pockets and making things happen to my body without my knowledge or consent.

I ended up in a full blown panic attack and rushed back to the room. My partner was fully ready for an amazing romantic encounter, with rose petals and champagne and everything. I ended up just hyperventilating and ranting about scary magicians then fell asleep. I felt so bad that I ruined the night. I still get anxiety when I see magic tricks.

[–] HereIAm 5 points 11 hours ago

Huh. I've never seen much slight of hand magic in person, and until now I wouldn't have thought that would be my reaction. But I can totally see a 1-on-1 close up performance like that feeling very invasive.

[–] [email protected] 25 points 1 day ago

That’s fascinating. I can totally understand your phobia (not that I feel it but it makes complete sense).