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Fair point (lemmy.world)

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[–] RememberTheApollo_ 5 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I would suggest that NT’s suffer from the curse of assumption and they’re unaware of it. It they read a question like we’re discussing they assume only one aspect of it. Whereas a non-NT like adhd would see multiple angles and answers to the question all at once and suffer the frustration of having to decipher what the asker really means - hence the au/adhd person’s need to over-explain an answer to be sure to corral the information specifically to the question they think is being asked.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 day ago

Assumptions are the corner stone of the curse of knowledge.

NTs make a lot of assumptions about the listener and how they will understand something, because they always operate within a contextual box. They either don't care, or don't want to examine their statements from outside perspectives because their perspective is the only one that matters to them. That makes it sound worse than it is, but it's accurate.

Neurodivergents generally spend a nontrivial amount of time trying to "fit in" with the NTs, often at the cost of their own mental well-being, but I digress. The majority of divergents have the skillset of understanding someone else's point of view, since it's a critical tool when building up a persona, aka masking.

I don't care what anyone says, that's a skillset, and it can be extremely useful. It's often not used in a good, or productive way (looping back to the argument of masking being mentally burdensome here). As a tool, out can be used to great benefit, or great detriment, depending on how it's used.