likely in response to my comments on the beehaw post, which i linked to (hopefully im doing this right?). apparently, calling people you dont know for the first time "they/them" before being told their pronouns is "misgendering". absurd. this kind of attitude threatens the larger LGBTQ community and is partially why cishets hate us after we won so much progress back in the 00s and 10s.
im a queer person. im neurodivergent. this shit is so goddamn fucking annoying, especially as an older queer who got physically assaulted on a near daily basis for being queer in the 90s. the kids today get their panties in a twist over being supposedly "misgendered" by someone calling them gender neutral pronouns before being corrected. narcissistic victimhood bullshit.
anyways, now banned from one of my favorite instances. meanwhile in the US theyre planning on hunting us. but yeah, lets ban fellow queers over their view that people who get mad about being "misgendered" when they arent (cis people are also referred to as "they/them" before further context in a conversation with a stranger) are just attention seeking brats that threaten the larger movement. its so obvious to me that the brats who find reason to be offended over innocent pronoun use never faced real adversity, like getting repeatedly physically beaten.
edit - the best part of all of this is i faced no moderation from beehaw and all of my comments are +1 or higher. power tripping oversensitive neurodivergent hating bastard of a mod over at blahaj IMO.
edit 2 - did this wrong. heres a link to the post i think got me banned from blahaj and a screenshot about it https://lemmy.dbzer0.com/post/37659465
Edit 3 - apparently I did nothing wrong until I made my thoughts known about how the pronoun police fucked over the larger LGBTQ community as our rights are backsliding in America. Yall are gonna whine about being misgendered to the concentration camp guards at the rate we’re going. God forbid I be angry that while queers were busy fighting over pronouns our adversaries stuffed the courts, stuffed the school boards, couped the government, and are installing a fascist dictatorship. When I say that these fucking toddlers are going to learn what real oppression tastes like, that’s what I mean. It’s not that I want us to be hurt or oppressed (as the dog piling idiots have interpreted), it’s that the younger generation is weak as hell and lost the fucking plot in the fight for our rights. I grew up getting beaten in the streets for being queer only for these kids to claim their pronouns not being mind-read is oppression!
Well, when someone is so obviously traumatized that they can't stop ranting long enough to think, what options are there?
Once you're past a certain point of trauma, it requires outside assistance to resolve, period. It isn't something you can hand wave away, it isn't something that changes as a fact even when the system is fucked.
But I'm telling you, the way you're acting, you're pushing right towards a major event. Might snap and cause harm to yourself or others, it might turn into a cardiovascular insult or a digestive one, there's no telling. But it isn't a matter of if, it's a matter of when.
You're so busy externalizing your pain, your fear, and your anger that it's eating you up. You've devolved into monomaniacal rants; you do realize that's not a good sign, right? People that are at that point in things, they don't get better alone.
Do you have a local support network? Friends, family, even helpful members of your community? If not, would you like some help finding local resources? It varies a lot, but there are usually services on a county and/or city level. Wait times are absurd, and everyone is overloaded, but they do triage crises ahead of stable conditions. You'd be able to get started at least.
I'm still not sure if you're serious, or maybe rage baiting, but I've walked the PTSD road. For decades. Once someone starts locking into a monomania like you are, it gets dangerous. The path out of that place is not easy, it's not fast, but it is possible to find remission.
The venom you're spitting? It isn't really about what you think it is. Your mind is scrambling, trying to find something to hold onto, a way to escape the pain. A lot of people go through that. Unfortunately, it's not long once it starts before you hit rock bottom with it.
So, if what you're saying about your trauma is true, for your own health and safety, reach out and find a way to heal.
I’m tired of the individualist work on yourself response to collective problems.
Yeah, I have major major fucking trauma from being queer and being beat to shit over it. I also live in America where there is no help.
Needless to say, I see the people who faux outrage over being “misgendered” as the whiny piss babies they are. They wouldn’t behave that way if they experienced real trauma, and as a result of their whining, our hard fought for rights are backsliding by the day.
Point this out and you’re a big bad meanie of a person harming their safe space.
Guess what? Soon, no space will be safe. Because this generation of soft as hell queers got so hung up on pronoun policing that they lost the fucking plot.
This isn't a collective problem. You see that, don't you? They are so nice to you
I’m not saying the person I responded to isn’t being nice (honestly, reads as saccharine over the top “caring” but maybe that’s just the internet and I’m jaded as fuck).
I’m saying the collective problem is that the queers have lost the plot in the fight for rights, and we’re going through a major backsliding event in America, telling me to work on myself in response to having PTSD over the very real situation in America right now is… condescending as fuck. I have to work on myself but whiny piss babies offended over innocuous use of pronouns don’t because they’re polite about it? Fuck outta here. Nonsense. They need to toughen the fuck up because times are changing quick.
Saying I’m a threat to young queers because I’m going the tough love route of you don’t know what real oppression looks like while you whine about pronouns is also ridiculous.
Amongst other things claiming that everyone in blahaj is American is kinda just a dick move. No one owes you a space to spew your "tough love" so to speak. Young people in and outside of America get to hear it daily already from people in their vicinity. You're not helping.
I have to actively pretend to be someone I am not in a place outside of America, so why would I let you berate me on how I should be willing to have they/them pronouns be used on me? Funny thing is, I sincerely do not care about the pronouns used for me, but the way you go about communicating with people just makes me sick of it.
Your speech is no different than my family telling me to act a certain way to be more palpable to the "cishet population". I and other people are not obligated to listen to the ramblings of a mentally distressed queer person who thinks we're all just a bunch of cry babies.
We’re about to be genocided in America. Shit is fucking serious.
No one claims it isn't, but taking your mental distress out on others is also not helping
Tone policing.
if you think I'm tone policing, block me and report my comment. Don't go around accusing people of it to further argue with them
Not really though, we're discussing your ban I think the topic is fully about you
And of course, the whiny piss babies who get butthurt over innocuous pronoun use have nothing to work on at all and we should not only tolerate but celebrate their faux victimhood in the name of acceptance 🙄