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There’s also the unpredictability of how you’ll feel when the event comes to pass. It’s not really something you can control no matter how prepared you think you are for it.
I’m so sorry to hear about it and hope you and your loved ones will be ok.
That's why anticipatory grief seems so fucking redundant on the surface, you know? Because ultimately you're going to go through the grief anyway, so why suffer twice? But yet here it is. And you're so right... everyone's reactions have been different now. I can only imagine what it's going to be like later...
Be very wary of the rage/anger at other people's denial of what seems clearly obvious to you. That can trip one up and start whole new rounds of unnecessary suffering - for the living.