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My husband literally lives for free because 90% of our income comes from me. His money basically is just our food. So yeah, its unethical to charge your partner rent. Its really weird to view relationships as a business deal where you both give exactly 50 percent. That sounds like roommates who have sex.
Your husband.
That's commitment and with it comes a lot of decision, one of them whether to keep money separate, pool together or just have one account altogether.
But unless that commitment is made, expecting ither half to be responsible and pay for their shit - unless agreed otherwise beforehand - is to be expexted.
Live like a businessman and be amazed when your partner finds a better deal.
Totally. What makes sense is to have a discussion about it and come to an agreement. Whatever arrangement that feels fair for both of you. You two have an arrangement that works for both of you and you’re both OK with it.
On the other hand just because you two are together doesn’t mean he’s automatically entitled to you paying 90%. That just happens to be something you both landed on and you’re clearly OK with it. Not everyone will be and it’s unfair to expect them to be ok with it.
I don’t think it’s unethical for your partner to chip in. Lying about it on the other hand is.
I dont think that anything you said is really wrong, but id like to use this oppurtunity to say that too many people view their significant other as a business partner they have sex with. Its a major problem with our culture and it leads to people leaving their spouse when they get cancer.