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Can't take being misgendered and harassed. He/himed. People starting arguments over their own intolerance and blaming the arguments on drag. Banned from trans communities on blahaj and then unbanned but the unban didn't federate, so don't know where to post this. In so much pain. Hopes this post won't lead to more pain. What do you do when nobody will believe you're hurt, and every time you scream out in pain, you're accused of having an agenda? What kind of agenda is just not wanting to be harassed anymore? They think they're winning when they fill a thread with drama and then complain about all the drama. They think they're doing something right? How do you tell people you're honestly suffering and have them believe you?

self-harm thoughtsDo you just cut your skin open and show it to them? Is that how you convince them that they're causing you pain? HOW? How the fuck do you convince them that your pain isn't a trick?

They tell you to block them while they misgender you and tell the whole world you're the devil. "Just ignore everything I'm doing to hurt you and you'll be okay". It doesn't make any sense but they think it's right. They could choose to disengage this very minute but they don't. They think harassment and misgendering is a crusade of justice. That hurting people is a moral good, but oh no, don't you dare claim you're hurt when I hurt you.

How the fuck do you post your tears on lemmy?

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[–] [email protected] 0 points 4 hours ago

Sorry for stressing you out. Drag didn't mean to single you out as responsible for that behaviour. Drag was pretty triggered after the initial "get help" comment. That one wasn't helpful to anyone, while drag thinks there's a good chance your comment will be seen by someone who does need to see it. Drag chose to respond to that initial comment broadly and refuse to acknowledge the implied specificity, but drag supposes most people don't take words literally enough to see what drag was doing. All they could see was the subtext that drag was choosing to ignore.

Feels nice to be told you feel the same way about people in online spaces perceiving your pain. It's awful. Call someone a troll, and you can pretend their every gasp and sob is manipulation. You don't have to care about the consequences of your actions. Causing pain is good. Fuck that thinking. It's one of the reasons why drag doesn't really believe in trolls. Drag's seen the belief in trolls turn people into monsters. Drag will leave drag's empathy on, even if it gets drag hurt, because hurting an innocent person is worse.