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Please don't "trap" me and force my attention on to you.
I literally cannot subvert my attention from what I am focused on. Please just say my name and wait a moment for me to context switch myself.
Forcing the attention takes away from what I want to focus on and what you want me to focus on (usually you).
I'd second this as something people don't get about ADHD.
So I work in IT support. If I'm absorbed in something complicated and you ask me to stop immediately to help you with your "more urgent" issue, please don't take it personally if I seem annoyed while my brain short circuits trying to deal with the sudden gear change.
Is this an ADHD thing or a normal human behavior?
In general, if someone ND is complaining about X, equating it to NT X doesn't work. They have the same name, yes. That's because we don't have words for X^2^ or X^3^ etc. Imagine if house cats, ocelots, pumas, and tigers were all called "cats."
"A stray cat wandered in and it looks hungry."
"So, what's the big deal? We have three cats at home. Just give them some kibble."
"I think it plans on eating me."
"Stop exaggerating."
This also works as a reply to OP's question.
Itβs worse for ADHD. Itβs an outsize irritation. Also, once the focus is broken it can be really hard to pick back up the original task.
Also why we endlessly do the hip wiggle to avoid going to the loo until it hurts.
Many adhd symptoms are "normal human" behavior/traits, but in people with adhd they are more exaggerated than in neurotypical peeps. So while something like this might be slightly annoying for a typical person, for someone with adhd it is likely worse.
Ever almost shat yourself because you were focused on something else?
Normally I'd be 'that guy' to call out ADHD vs NT behaviours but for this - particularly when hyperfocus is involved - there is 100% a difference.
Yes