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Need birthday party advice... (self.parenting)
submitted 3 weeks ago by polarpear11 to c/parenting
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My kids are young and their birthdays are exactly 3 years and 1 day apart. We have their birthday parties together for now because they are still young (turning 4 and 7) they also get along and don't mind at all sharing a birthday party.

When making invitations should I put that it's a joint birthday party? I don't want parents to feel obligated to get something for both kids but I also don't want them to feel bad that they didn't know and didn't get something for the other kid. How should I word the invitations?

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[โ€“] jpreston2005 16 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

I grew up with an older brother whose birthday was exactly 5 years before mine. The dual birthday party was OK when we were little, but by the time I was in elementary school, all I wanted was to have my own special day, and not have to share it. This got even worse when I eventually married a woman whose birthday was ALSO on the same day, but that's besides the point.

What I really want to communicate is that each kid should get their own special day, don't treat it like a parenting two-fer. They're individuals and should be treated as such.

As for the invitations, yeah say that it's a joint birthday party, but that it's not expected of them to bring gifts for both of your children.

[โ€“] polarpear11 3 points 3 weeks ago

I'm thinking this will probably be the last year they will want their party together. They go to an extremely small school and know a lot of the same kids so it never feels disjointed but I also want them to get the special birthday treatment most kids enjoy. Another commenter suggestion of one party in the am and one in the pm could be a good compromise for this year though.