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women don't do that, because they subconsciously know like 80% of men (including me) would see that as an opportunity for a pickup line, like "I would, if you went out with me" or "a hug/kiss would cheer me up" or some other borderline creepy stuff.
It's not exactly a pickup line but it is expressing interest. And that's how a lot of men use the line.
Telling someone they should "smile more" isn't expressing interest. It's a very weird demand. If you'd like to express interest in someone please consider a different approach.
No, it’s the “you look cute” part. As a man, I rarely ever get compliments. A “you look cute” would make my entire day. And I would smile at that!
"You should smile more" is a subtle way of saying "why are you such a stuck up bitch? Am i not good enough for you?"
Why is it creepy to be attracted to someone and tell them you're attracted to them? Isn't that, like, biology? What we're programmed to do?
Is it creepy for male birds to do mating dances to try to impress female birds?
Read the room though.
At a dating event? Sure.
At the bus stop? Uuuuh make small talk before that.
At work? Yikes.
It's creepy if they are not much attracted to you or don't know yet and it's hard to tell at first, hence you should be unobtrusive. The reason is, some men won't take no for an answer and many women are a bit scared by that and knowing you like them can mean they have to be more careful around you.