are there proper ways to engage people in game? it seems strange to me to randomly ask someone to be friends. i also don't see many ways to strike up conversations (if that's the proper way to refer to it).

for additional context, in a game like Throne & Liberty or FFXIV, there are tons of people running around doing their thing. do you just whisper to someone and say hi? do you comment on their character or if you saw them do something interesting / cool?

or, for something like The First Descendant you may run a mission with a bunch of random people and then everyone goes their separate ways. but, if that group was cool (and good) do you quickly try to friend everyone?

personal context (if it helps / matters), console gamer (PlayStation don't judge please, haha), really introverted / anxious around strangers IRL, older play (mid 50s) and ultimately... afraid of looking like a weirdo 😀

apologies in advance if this topic was already discussed (happy to check another post if some can point me to it). also, apologies if i don't directly respond to every message, although i will read them all.

edit - 2024/11/16 - i just wanted to say thank you to everyone for your advice and taking the time to reply / provide your insights. this has really been helpful!! happy gaming to you all 🎮 🕹️ 😄

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 week ago (1 children)

They just rarely come find you yeah, that makes sense, the onus is on me to find people. agreed on the chat thing. again, still trying to figure it all out but some of the zone / game wide chat is... interesting, to say the least.

i think when a get a little further along, i may look into guilds. my only concern is that it becomes a second full time job. however, as one person mentioned, "leave if you're not happy" (to paraphrase that posters comment).

will do on the take the thoughts out of your head advice!

[–] CMLVI 2 points 1 week ago

Nah, I haven't played ESO as part of the guild in over a month. I still get on and do some stuff, but it's solo stuff or just with a group who linked up. Unless you're joining an end-game guild, I'd say the function is more social than content. T&L maybe a little different, but the point of the big guilds is that you can join, and you have a group of "vetted" players you fit in with to play when you want to. It is what you make of it, y'know?