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The movement to swear off men: No sex. No dating. No marriage. No children. (19thnews.org)

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In the hours following former President Donald Trump’s election victory, Google searches related to 4B — a fringe South Korean feminist movement that made a name for itself in the mid to late 2010s — surged in the United States.

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[–] [email protected] 0 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

It tells us everything. It says you don't understand what we're going through. It says you don't care what we're going through. It says you think your desire to have sex is worth more than our very lives.

I was with you right up until this point. My single status has no effect on my political beliefs, and I'm going to keep voting in favor of your rights, no matter how much you try to tell me that I don't care about you.

I'm entirely in favor of women exercising bodily autonomy. As a movement for protecting women, this is great. As a movement for affecting political change, this is not. Sell it as the former, and I'm in favor. Sell it as the latter, and I'm going to argue.

[–] Whats_your_reasoning 0 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

There are more goals than some grand, over-arching "change." On an extremely basic, self-preserving level, there is a goal of "not getting pregnant while living in a country that actively endangers the lives of pregnant women."

If it brings about change that would be awesome. But regardless of that, by swearing off relationships and sex, we're still not getting pregnant. Ergo, we are able to keep our bodily autonomy. Which, I guess I have to remind you, we would lose if we got pregnant.

Unless (non-sterilize) progressive men have some special sperm that doesn't attempt to fertilize an egg, creating an exception based on beliefs would still put our lives at risk.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Did you read the part where I said

I'm entirely in favor of women exercising bodily autonomy. As a movement for protecting women, this is great.

[–] Whats_your_reasoning 1 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (1 children)

Yes. I also read the part of your previous post that said:

Do you want to try to explain to me how a protest that specifically targets progressive men is an effective way to get men to be more progressive?

“Just don’t be a bad guy and you won’t be the target!” This movement makes no distinction between conservative and progressive men, it is explicitly about absolute denial of sex, dating, marriage, and children.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m 100% in favor of women not dating conservative men if they don’t want to. A movement that draws attention to the fact that women have the option of breaking up with their boyfriends and divorcing their husbands would be fantastic. A movement that specifically tries to deny relationships to the people that you’re trying to deradicalize is not that.

I also read the original article, which includes:

The idea behind the movement is individual resistance against what it defines as a conservative political environment and the corrosion of reproductive rights.

You seem to have the misconception that this movement is primarily about women doing something to make an impact on men, despite there being nothing in the source stating that. "A conservative political environment and a corrosion of reproductive rights" casts a wide net, but "revenge on men" or "motivating men" are both invariably going to be a lower priority than, oh say, "not dying from a miscarriage." Makes sense, right?

There's more to being a feminist ally than simply believing in a woman's right to choose. I'd be more inclined to believe that you truly support us if you showed any sign of having considered anything that I'd said about why women are drawn to this idea, or how you may have been initially mistaken by assuming it's being done just to target men. But alas.

[–] [email protected] -1 points 2 weeks ago

I really don't care if some random woman doesn't believe that I truly support women. Especially when you read something like

I'm entirely in favor of women exercising bodily autonomy. As a movement for protecting women, this is great.

and think you need to lecture me on how this movement would protect women and help them exercise their bodily autonomy