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They line up in front of a courthouse in southeastern France, from morning to evening, and have gathered in the thousands in cities across the country. They hold signs reading, "one rape every six minutes," "not all men but always a man," and "giving in is not consenting."

They chant: "Rapist we see you, victim we believe you."

Women across France are rallying in support of Gisèle Pelicot, a 72-year-old reluctant icon whose husband is on trial in the city of Avignon for systematically drugging her and inviting dozens of men, 50 of whom are now his co-defendants, into their home to rape her over nearly a decade.

The shocking case has sparked what many women in France call a long-overdue reckoning over "rape culture" and systemic sexism in the way the judicial system handles sexual violence.

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[–] [email protected] 24 points 1 month ago (3 children)

I think I would have more sympathy with those focusing on the "not all men but always a man" sign if this weren't in the context of a woman being drugged by her husband and then said husband inviting about 50 random men to rape her, over 10 years.

One of the worst times to advocate for men's rights/issues is when everyone is talking about the heinous crimes a bunch of men have done. Especially if the comments you're leaving are focusing on how women rape just as much as men do, etc.

[–] Roflmasterbigpimp 25 points 1 month ago

I agree with you. Yes, this is not the time nor the place to go full on men's rights activism, 100% correct.

But if someone tells a rape victim his experience does not account because he part of the 4%, then nobody won anything at all, and I will speak my mind about such a heinous statement, the same way I will speak my mind about any one telling Woman shit like "It happened bc you dressed so seductive", "You sure he heard you saying No?"etc etc. .

[–] Makhno 22 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

One of the worst times to advocate for men's rights/issues is when everyone is talking about the heinous crimes a bunch of men have done. Especially if the comments you're leaving are focusing on how women rape just as much as men do, etc.

Agreed. Unfortunately there's always gonna be a whataboutism as long as men feel unheard...

People can lose empathy when they think the world is ignoring them. It's taken me years to move on from people telling me to "man up" or "get over it" about my SA.

[–] captainlezbian 10 points 1 month ago

I really hope that at some point male victims of sexual assault will work to create a movement of support. It’s not ok that y’all get told to man up, and it’s not ok that y’all are often used as a way to shut down discussions of sexual violence against women.

[–] VinnyDaCat 2 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Absolutely agreed.

Something I used to hear regarding feminism was that it also fought for men's rights even if indirectly for equality purposes. While I wouldn't say it's accurate of the movement now, I will say that it'd be a nice thing for men's rights groups to pick up. If these movements want to be heard then they must be willing to listen to the voices of women and be willing to bring their own to justice.

[–] Warl0k3 13 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

Yo, feminists have been leading the charge on shit like paternity leave (FMLA was feminists), battered men's shelters (now there's four! In the country!) and getting equality of rulings on spousal abuse or visitation rights. Don't buy into the alt-right BS about how the movement used to be good but now it's just full of all those self-centered women, and I only hate the current version. It's a really common line, and it's bullshit.

[–] VinnyDaCat 2 points 1 month ago

I'll be completely honest: I don't really know which organizations/movements are doing what these days. There's too much to keep track of. The groups where I am aren't particularly kind though. That's coming from my knowledge of an experience with a family member's divorce, so I apologize for being misinformed.

I just do what I think is right. It's all I have energy for.

[–] captainlezbian 4 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

As a modern feminist I think that’s one of the differences between the third and fourth waves. The third wave (and early second wave) had a strong emphasis on “feminism is for everyone” and was much more “theory based” if that makes sense. The fourth wave is generally understood to be defined by the era of mass social media. It’s been hardened by things like gamergate, the me too movement, and the rabid opposition to the third wave by reactionary men refusing to accept that it was the most pro man wave feminism saw. I don’t think it’s tactically wise or theoretically sound, but I get and feel the anger. That said I’m generally more pro third wave as a whole, including thinking bell hooks really understood how patriarchy negatively impacts men.

But yeah, modern feminist culture is jaded and angry, and for good reason. And I do agree that a men’s movement to deal with y’all’s issues would be incredibly helpful so long as you’re able to keep the reactionary voices out of it. Because from this woman’s perspective, a lot of men really need to develop friendships based on mutual care and understanding. Women can’t fix the malaise men are currently showing, and reactionaries can only make it worse.